While I already knew that the border areas of northern Mexico are very dangerous - long before I ever read this thread - the additional things about the situation that I've learned from reading the information in this thread have convinced me that going there now for any reason - short of absolute necessity - would be a fool's errand. And playing a gig there is definitely not an absolute necessity.
The OP may not realize it, but the fears of his bandmates - and their family members - may even end up saving his life...although he'll likely never know that, because one never knows for sure the outcome of the path not taken...
MM
The OP may not realize it, but the fears of his bandmates - and their family members - may even end up saving his life...although he'll likely never know that, because one never knows for sure the outcome of the path not taken...

MM