Do you guys believe in this?

[worker201]

I think I'm gonna go for my second round of not looking........for whatever reason last semester it actually worked.......not so much now

If you're looking by not looking, the irony police will know you're cheating. The key is to not really give a crap - but of course you can't just pretend to not really give a crap, because that's cheating too. You have to seriously let go and not really give a crap. That's confidence, and it does all the work for you.

Of course, much easier said than done. I should know, I'm pretending to not look right now too.

 

[hbarcat]

As long as you don't have something seriously wrong with you anyone can get in on the action by being confident in yourself as a person. Being comfortable in your own shoes (as the saying goes) earns respect.

This guy just radiates "I'm a loser" in his video even with the sound turned off. Try it, yourself. Turn off the sound and imagine what he's saying. It most resembles a farewell video just before committing suicide.

 

[XtreO]

2.Why is it that if a girl wants to be a housewife and take care of her husband and children people assume there is something wrong with her?

Quotations to support statement please.

 

[hbarcat]

Quotations to support statement please.

The idea that being a traditional housewife is a bad thing was first popularized in this older book:

Friedrich Engels The Origin of the Family, Private Property, and the State (1884)

It became very popular in the 70's:

Kate Millett Sexual Politics (1969)
Ellen Peck The Baby Trap (1971)
Kathrin Perutz Marriage is Hell (1972)
Jill Johnston Lesbian Nation (1973)

A more recent example:

Susan Moller Okin Justice, Gender, and the Family (1991).


While it doesn't have the wide popularity it used to have, the idea still has many adherents and it's taught in many women's studies programs in college.

 

[LiquidMidnight]

This cat needs to talk to Mystery.

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If a woman wants to be a housewife or if a man wants to marry a woman to be a housewife, then more power to those people. I have no interest in it. I don't have any superficial standards like, "Must be blonde, must have .7 waist-hip ratio, etc.," but one thing I do see in my potential partner is that she must be career-oriented. I have no interest in just taking care of somebody. If I'm talking to someone and her primary aspriation is to be a mother and nothing else, then sorry, our relationship will never go beyond friendship, no matter how nice or hot she is.

A good friend and a former drummer of mine has a wife who stays at home and takes care of the children. Despite always having comfortable day gigs (not $80,000 a year jobs, but comfortable) he is crazy about getting sub work because he needs to money since his wife doesn't work. That just isn't the life for me.

 

[Munjibunga]

The dude is a loser. He blames woman for his inability to get laid. He says feminism gives them too much power and that they should be subjugated. If he really wants a 50s style housewife, there is always plenty of girls with low self esteem that he can leach onto.

Y'think?

 

[Munjibunga]

He's trying to blame the world for his neurosis. His social ineptitude exists because everything else is messed up. Loser, plain and simple.

 

[peterbright]

Perhaps we could give him a whiner of the year award so that he doesn't feel like so much of a loser.

 

[BlackLake]

Perhaps we could give him a whiner of the year award so that he doesn't feel like so much of a loser.

We'll play this at the awards ceremony

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[JonathanD]

"do you think True forced loneliness is a social concept we should be more aware about as a problem in society?"

No. people should take care of themselves or pay a psychiatrist. When I was 16 I thought "I'm not getting any" so I started asking girls out, seeing what they liked, trying different approaches. Trial and error, and there will always be error.

 

[f'nar f'nar]

I'm a loser. But the difference between me and this guy is that I know I'm a loser, I've accepted that its because of my own design and I'm slowly changing myself. **** the ideology of "be yourself, don't change for them" Bull**** it just isn't true. Relationships are compromises whether you can admit it or not. Every person can change, they just need the motivation. This guy will never get the motivation to turn his life around because he keeps blaming everyone else for his "forced loneliness".

Here's something to ponder, this said he's tried every trick in the book. Well the best magic trick in the world can be made to look terrible by a poor magician, right? I can try all the tricks in the world, but if underneath it all I'm a horrible loser, it's not gonna make a lick of difference.

This guy is just bitter because he's got to the point in his life when it wouldn't help to completely change himself anyway and he's just gonna blame women who decide in the first two seconds whether you're right for them or not. Sorry, but thats just not how it goes. A girl is a person with a brain and a personality, no woman is so rock hard that after two seconds she'll never talk to you again. You can always stick at it and be nice to her (but not too nice, the best friend zone is somewhere you don't want to end up!).

P.S. I'm not complaining that I'm a loser, if anything I enjoy it, it's motivating!

 

[gold_member_321]

Total Quackjob.

 

[popinfresh]

Geez this guy is a nutjob, people aren't forced into loneliness. People like this guy are just a loser who can't fix himself up.

Women could say the same about men.

Maybe they should get off youtube and get a life.

 

[scorpionldr]

lol funny how a few months ago I pitied and ALMOST tried to see things this way. any way we can cut it people have to change to survive, I'm realizing.