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Do you guys believe in this?

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scorpionldr

Dec 10, 2002
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Dirty Jersey, USA
#1
I have to start off saying that I've started watching youtube videos not just for music/talent/wankery's sake, but I finally felt like looking my problems in the face, since Youtube has become a phenomenon in teaching people how to do things and overcome. One of the things I even bothered to search was loneliness, which ironically for the first couple of pages I found crap....Until I heard about this guy.


he's coining a phrase of "true forced loneliness".....Something I've only observed but was never able to put a finger on....Certainly something that has in my eyes, probably deciphered what is perceived to be feminism into being a myth. It's funny because Sam Kinison (one of the "originators" of this, maybe) may actually be right.
Anyways, onto getting this thread out the door:
"do you think True forced loneliness is a social concept we should be more aware about as a problem in society?"
 
#2
This guy is a flippin' dufus.

First of all, if he's lonely he needs to move out of his parent's house, lose the crooked posters, and get himself a bed that can accomodate more than one person. In my opinion, if you have chosen to have a twin size bed you have decided that you will be alone no matter what. There is no one forcing you to live like a little boy.

He also claims that you have to be yourself, no matter what. Yet he claims to have listened to other people about meeting women and also claims to have tried every trick in the book. How can you truly be yourself if you are running around grasping onto every "get a chick" tip out there? I think his biggest problem is that he's spending too much time feeling sorry for himself and not really evaluating how he can manitain his individuality while making himself more appealing to women. I know one thing for sure, women don't want a bitter whiner, no one does.

I first met my wife in 1991. According to her, she had initially sized me up as "friend potential" but totally undatable. Well, it's 2008 now and here we are, 17 years and 4 kids later.

The only person forcing that guy to be lonely is himself.
 
#3
i don't know. from certain perspectives I see what your talking about. on the other hand, I think what really just was pointed out was people are pretty demanding....speaking of which, why do you judge so hard? so the guy uses a plastic bin for his garbage and maybe his camera doesn't hit his bed the right angle so he looks like some loser. that was the more harshly judged video, heres some other guy:
 
#4
i can't view youtube at work but as far as "True forced loneliness " which i'm going to assume is being single on purpose for the rest of your life...

a unic is someone who chooses to not (or believes they were chosen) to not have relationships with people, but only with God. Most of them are Missionaries, and few are actually "chosen" to be that, but they are 100% fine with having friends, ministry, and God. :D

totally normal, if its for you....sure aint for me!
 
#10
The dude is a loser. He blames woman for his inability to get laid. He says feminism gives them too much power and that they should be subjugated. If he really wants a 50s style housewife, there is always plenty of girls with low self esteem that he can leach onto.
 
#11
A couple things I want to say here.

1.The concept of learned helplessness is a very real psychological theory, and it does happen to people sometimes.

2.Why is it that if a girl wants to be a housewife and take care of her husband and children people assume there is something wrong with her? I applaud the stay at home mother, because that is how I was raised, and my mom is a very important person in my life. Id rather that children were raised by their parents than daycares and preschools. In the same breath I also applaud a man that choses to be a stay at home father. I dont have a problem with either parent having a career, but I personally think it is best for a child to have one parent at home, especially when the child is young.
 
#13
If that guy can't atleast talk to women, then he is doing it wrong. confidence is the key! the percieved law of averages is 1 in 10, i found that with women it is 1 in 4. At a club 1 in 2. If she doesn't want to dance, her friend does.

Confidence is what seperates your from either in the friend zone or date zone. i got to a point that i had enough "friends" and needed more dates. be yourself, don't whine, be positive about life and where you are. It could be worse, we could be guitar players. :smug::hiding:
 
#14
Shishkbob said:
If that guy can't atleast talk to women, then he is doing it wrong. confidence is the key! the percieved law of averages is 1 in 10, i found that with women it is 1 in 4. At a club 1 in 2. If she doesn't want to dance, her friend does.

Confidence is what seperates your from either in the friend zone or date zone. i got to a point that i had enough "friends" and needed more dates. be yourself, don't whine, be positive about life and where you are. It could be worse, we could be guitar players. :smug::hiding:
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yea.........i sort of wisened up on my post but didn't edit the first thing.......actually I have no confidence problems just problems with girls that are always coincidentally taken. lol oh, and actually I have been working on learning to play guitar.........
 
#16
scorpionldr said:
yea.........i sort of wisened up on my post but didn't edit the first thing.......actually I have no confidence problems just problems with girls that are always coincidentally taken. lol oh, and actually I have been working on learning to play guitar.........
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yeah they are easy to fall for, cause they involve the least chance of rejection, cause we can always rationalize it as "she was taken anyway". i have the same struggle at times. i go through phases, at times i can talk to anyone and everyone, other times, i just sit at the bar and drink my beer. It is a personal head game, some people are naturals, other have to work at it. Just like ear training.
 
#17
Shishkbob said:
yeah they are easy to fall for, cause they involve the least chance of rejection, cause we can always rationalize it as "she was taken anyway". i have the same struggle at times. i go through phases, at times i can talk to anyone and everyone, other times, i just sit at the bar and drink my beer. It is a personal head game, some people are naturals, other have to work at it. Just like ear training.
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lol i never actually realized how much i'd miss ear training till i stopped having to do it
yea i don't know, i also have a half brother that sort of just our relations enflame the situation........he was always the guy that got good long lasting relationships; i was the talented recluse (or whatever you could consider it).......I think I'm gonna go for my second round of not looking........for whatever reason last semester it actually worked.......not so much now
 
#19
Typical "I can't get laid" thread that pops up every day on TB.

He's right insofar as there are some people who are so weird, creepy, disfigured, crazy etc. that they will forever be lonely. The guy in the video is pretty normal looking and sounds rational enough, so I would assume he's just a creeper.

I'm still not sure whether it's better to be yourself or someone else. I'm not really sure what it is to 'be myself' because I'm so often trying new things, changing perspective, etc. But confidence is key. For all that you might say about David D'angelo, his method works if you give it a try. I did that successfully back in high school, and now I'm trying a different routine (doesn't work as well but I'll pull out the aces when the time is right).
 

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