After jamming with someone who has come to be one of my best friends for a bout 2 years now, we've formed a band with a keyboardist and guitarist. We sounded good enough at first, playing dancy, jamband music. We played about 18 shows from february to june, and they wen't well. Now after a brief hiatus and some time to reflect, myself, the keys and guitarist have come to realize our potential, as well as our current limitations. We know we can sound better with a real drummer, not just someone who plays the drums. My dilemma is that I know we can grow into something incredible if we had a drummer we didn't have to fight and could rely on to nail the changes, fill the space and hold down a simple groove as the music calls for. We're sitting down with our drummer tomorrow to have "the talk" we want to give him the chance to step it up, but we all know it's just not there. I don't want to lose one of my best friends over this but i sure as hell don't want to continue working a crappy retail job my whole life because a drummer held us back... What are your thoughts?