Earplugs + singing + Help! Is there any way?!

How about in ear monitors?

 

If you can get the whole band on in ears, the stage volume can go as low as possible considering you'll still have drums and non-direct things that are miked like guitar amps. In fact, guitar amps can be placed elsewhere if needed to reduce stage volume. You will have your own mix. You'll still have something in your ears altering the way you hear your voice to an extent, but it will be MUCH better.

 

Here you go: http://mixonline.com/live/applications/audio_ear/

 

What kind of earplugs do you use? The regular foam types cut sound in a way that doesn't lend itself to music. The more expensive (not too bad though, and they're reusable) silicone ones are much better, you don't lose any frequencies. You can hear what you could hear with them out, but quieter.

Music stores often stock them now, brand names escape me, I'm afraid.

 

Why did you make up a reason to leave the band? Why not lay it out about your hearing? Maybe they want you in the band w/o singing? Maybe they'll turn down? What's happening to their hearing if they are not wearing ear plugs?

Also, what if you wore the in ear monitor (IEM) in one ear and an ear plug in the the other? Maybe some other TB'rs have experience with this setup.

 

Here's something you might to check out in your area:
Custom fitted silicon ear plugs - http://www.hear-more.com/musician.htm

Here's a quote from the website:
"Once the earplugs are inserted, employees forget them and can move from high dB levels to normal conversation without removing or adjusting them."

 

try these:

http://www.samash.com/catalog/showitem.asp?ItemID=41249

I use these. It sounds like your not wearing plugs.

 

This is what I've been dealing with lately. New drummer is awesome and loud. Now I wear ear plugs all the time. I only sing back-ups, but I'm not a good singer so it's very important to be able to hear myself. I've found having one ear plug in helps me to hear my pitch, but not my volume. I just had some molds made for musician's ear-plugs at my local audiologist. Hopefully when I get them next week I'll be able to wear both, hear my voice in my ear, and hear how loud I'm singing.

 

i use ER-20s the work fine for me even if i have to sing backings. but from your post it seems that my band is not as loud yours but which ear plugs have you been using?

 

+1 on fitted earplugs

 

foam ear plugs do not cut out all frequencies evenly and make things sound funny. an ideal (~good) pair of earplugs should make everything sound the same but only less louder, however ideal is very hard to find in real life but anyway good ear plugs should set you fine!
and i really am not sure if anything much can be done about the ringing in your ears, i have done some damage too, you would slowly get somewhat used to it. other than that the ringing only rings in when you are in super quiet places like maybe your bedroom or someplace so try to have some slight (pleasing) sound source around like an audio system playing at low volumes enough to overpower the ringing

edit: but for me even a fan or a/c running is enough to not hear the ringing but again perhaps my ringing is far lesser louder than yours. ringing gets louder when after i attend other bands gig (which i used too, earlier, being right up in the front headbanging with fellas!) but now i go to EVERY gig with them ear plugs me playing or not. since i have kinda long hair no one can really see them