I've read all I can find about compressors and looked over Bongomania's compressor reviews, yet I can't seem to land on what I'm looking for.
Hello. May I say: When searching for one for a particular application, reading about audio signal processors is like "dancing about architecture". Their feature set and measurements can be expressed well in words, but their sound and feel is wholly subjective in use.
Had you said that you played a number of compressor models, but none sounded and felt like what you sought, then I would advise you to play yet more.
But if I read you right, though I think the suggestions from others so far are fine, and that it's good for you to work from a list of candidate models, I say that your search won't end until you play at least one model that gets it for you; and that the only way you will find that one is to play model after model after model...
The main reason for this is that you cannot account for other players' perception, experience, instruments, playing, musical context, etc. for a useful comparison to your own.
In that sense, there are no shortcuts. You simply have to play your way to success. Good luck!