I feel compelled to share. I don't know why, but maybe someone else will be helped by this. I joined a band about 2 1/2 years ago. These guys had been a top shelf band and I made a couple grand my first month with them. These guys decided to ditch the horn player and singer and stop playing your basic cover band material and play what they wanted. If people requested tunes at a gig, the bandleader would mock them and then play a country two-step and sing the requested song title a few times, ask the person if that was the song, then tell them we didn't know it. He would constantly make inappropriate sexual comments to the staff and audience. By the end of that summer, the set list was 50% instrumentals. These guys continued to get bookings off of previous successes and the band continued on. Now, we are at the end of another summer season and nobody left the lights on. The bandleader can no longer get a return call from any bookers and these guys played 130 dates their busiest year. They used to never take bar gigs because that was "below" them. This summer contained a few bar gigs and too many farmers' market gigs playing on the sidewalk for tips. Now, the only gig offer is at a tiny coffeehouse that pays 15% of the till and is never busy. Anyone that plays there is lucky to get about $35 and then split that up. I'm being given the riot act because an opening came up for later in the month at this little coffeehouse and I'm already booked with another band playing a nice club date. All I'm trying to say is please be respectful of your audience/co-workers/fellow musicians, etc. These guys deserve to be sitting at home and it's taken this long to fully burn every single bridge they had and they're finally now waking up to reality. Meanwhile, I've always encouraged others, jammed with others, filled in and helped out with others' gigs as I was able to, etc. So, I've got 8 gigs this month in spite of these guys sitting at home! So, yeah...be vulnerable, take risks, step outside of your comfort zone, learn new things, and be a positive person. These things will help you weather the storm. And, in reality, I knew where this was going two years ago, but I opted to take the paying gigs I could get. I got to play a lot of new places with lots of other musicians as a result of this group, so it was a learning experience.