Good advice above. In my musical life I have gotten lucky a few times and been called to play some good gigs, even some steady ones, in different musical genres. More often than not, though, I'm the guy people call at the last minute when the *regular* bass player can't make it.
I currently play with a "bluegrass" band (for lack of a better description) that does quite a bit of playing. But for my part, I'm pretty frustrated with them, most of the time. Two of the members really have no business playing music. They're just that bad. Another one is a good player but is incredibly lazy and refuses to learn new tunes or even try different arrangements. Most of the stuff we do ends up being more like a jam, in that there is nothing worked out -- every tune is just the basic melody, straight out of an instructional book (literally), first the mando plays it, then the banjo, etc. No improv at all, unless they happen to let me take a solo (rare). So sometimes being in a band is more of a curse than a blessing.
My problem has usually been that I haven't made any effort to make things happen -- I just wait for them to happen. Though I was really spoiled for a time to have a bunch of excellent musician pals in NYC with whom I put up a website and advertised jazz for hire. Got some good paying gigs out of that, until everyone started moving away and getting married.
I guess my point is, if you want something to happen, you may have to make it happen, as Jason suggested (sort of). This could mean either get a gig scheduled, with whatever recording(s) you have, even if it's just yourself overdubbing different instruments (you play banjo? you probably can strum a little guitar too I'm sure), or maybe just start putting the feelers out -- take out a classified ad, seeking musicians, or put up a flyer at your local music shop, whatever. I feel for you. It will come together if you want it to.
