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How do you escape "small town" USA?

I'm no expert but I'll throw in my .02...

The key is employment. Does your degree from college make you desireable to other employers in other cities who you could send your resume to?

Even if your flipping burgers in a dead end job, maybe that deadend job has other locations in other cities and you could transfer over?

If your broke due to debt, the key is to pay off the lowest debt first. Then once thats paid off take that money you used to use to make the minimum payment on that debt and apply it to your next smallest debt. It may take a while, but it will work out so that you are in a better place. You have to be *very* frugal. Only the bare necessities.

I'd be hesitant about the sleeping in the car thing. You'd then have no address and would essentially be homeless. Its difficult to get a job if you dont have an address. Its better to do whatever you have to save up, sell stuff, pay off debt and then make your move with money you have saved.

On the flip side of that if you could sell or trade your car for a pickup truck or van you could just throw your mattress in the back and rough it for a few months, saving the money you would have spent on rent and putting that cash aside to make a move to a bigger city.

Just had another thought about the truck idea...

With a pickup truck or van you could do odd jobs to make extra money on the weekends or after work... it depends how much you want it, and how motivated you are. could do odd jobs to make extra money on the weekends or after work... it depends how much you want it, and how motivated you are.

You could also get a second job in the evenings & weekends.

Another thing you could try is to look for a job in the closest big or bigger city to you and commute. Bigger cities have more opportunities. Once you have a decent job then move.
 
Having moved to smalltown from big town a few months ago, i definitely feel like there is a lack of the open mindedness out here compared to where i was, and in most cases speaking about the things that i once did casually could actually be even dangerous out here, and i'm just biding my time till i can get back. The people are great (as long as you agree with them, but its very formulaic, have kids with high school sweetheart, get married, get job that pays the bills, and ride it out to the end) but i just sense a feeling of filling your piece in the machine and a lack of ambition, i guess anyone who had any is probably long gone, so i feel for ya.

If you want to get out of there, do it. It won't be easy in the slightest starting over but the chances of finding like minded people is increased ten fold, something i consider worth the trouble. Just think of it as an adventure, it'll be rough for awhile but i always considered that the purpose in life is to achieve happiness, and if you can't get it there, move on and do what your heart tells you to do (sorry for that hallmark moment, but its true imo)

Just get out there and follow the flow, you'll hopefully catch it eventually.
 
Everyone is missing a point.

The OP has an Internet connection or he wouldn't be posting here.

If he's not already surfing the Internet for job listings, you have to wonder if he has any initiative, as this is not a question that most people need to ask. My answer above only stated the obvious.

I have several cities in mind.

I have sent COUNTLESS resumes/applications online to openings in those cities.

Not a response. Nada. Zilch.

Please don't act like Im a some bum or have no initiative. Ive lived in a very small, sheltered town for a long time, and do not have many connections or much job experience. Please stop judging me.... Jesus, I am educated, intelligent, but in other ways, very ignorant of job politics, relocating, etc.
 
macaroni tony said:
I don't think so....powderfinger is just an uber emotional dude. These posts seem about par for the course to me.

+1.

Job transfer seems like the most obvious opportunity, barring that possibility, research job opportunities long distance and travel for interviews on a need be basis. Save and pay down debt as much as possible until then.
 
The only problem I see is you aren't realistic. MM and MT made good points already about roughing it and lowering your standards. If you don't want to, or can't do that, then you really need to make the best of where you are at bro.

-Mike
 
OK, a longer response from me:

My wife and I lived in Charleston for about 4 years. We barely made enough money to get by, but our goal was always to get to Los Angeles so she could pursue her career. We saved every way we could- no internet, no cable tv, cheap food, one car, etc. Every year our tax returns went into a savings account and eventually we had about $3k saved up. That was enough for a rental truck and a security deposit on an apartment in L.A. Was it thin? Sure, if anything had gone wrong in that first month we would've been screwed. But we made it work.

Now, L.A. is one of the most expensive cities in the country. Our rent went from $450/month in Charleston to $1250/month in L.A. for a much smaller place. But there are much cheaper options. Take a look at Portland, OR. Average rents are super low and there is a huge creative community there. Sure, you might have to work in a coffee shop for awhile, but you'll be able to make ends meet and start moving towards something better than what you have now.

On that note, if you're 2-3 hours away from Charlotte you must be pretty close to either Greenville or Columbia. Plenty of things going on in both those cities.
 
The waaaahmbulance is arriving shortly.

There's no magic button. Many of us made the move.
And yeah, I lived in my car until I got settled.
Took a crap job so I "had a job" and could get a crap apartment.
Then got a better job, because now I had an address and could get a better job.
With the internet you can find companies that are hiring for your skillset, in all kinds of cities. So you don't even have to go and live in your car.

But quit whining. Time spent griping about how mean we are is time not spent researching locations and employers.
 
Here is a couple of other thoughts.

My daughter looked for work for a year in Boston and NY. Nothing. When she moved to Richmond, she got a job in a week.

The closer you are to DC, the closer you are to money flow and defense contractors.

I would check in with a Temp Agency like a Robert Half Int'l or someone like that looking for opportunities in a market you are interested in. You got to go in with a job, based on your parameters.

Good luck.
 
I personally think the whole "sleeping in the car" thing is only if you want to get a job flipping burgers. I'd have to be starving in the street to go that route - it makes no sense to me, and I've never had to do it. Last time I was out of work was many years ago. I visited 20 businesses the first day seeking a gig - and it took me a week to find something.

If you are a professional and want to get a professional job, simply keep at it. BUT - you have to sell yourself.

If you have to sing, dance and tell stories, do it. Sales (selling yourself) is part of getting the job. I know the job market is tough - but have you used your alumni association? Professional organization? Specialized publications?

Keep looking, keep applying, do not shotgun apps to the world, target your desired positions and go after them with energy.

There is no magic bullet. If you want to get this done, work your butt off to do it.
 
My parents up and moved my sister and I to a different CONTINENT without any correspondance or connections. They worked factory jobs and saved saved saved and one day had a house for us. It's possible, but you gotta pull all your plugs and jump in with both feet with or without help. My parents definitely didn't have any help.
 
Dump your car, you can't afford it. Get a smaller place, you can't afford where you are living now.Stop eating out, you can't afford it. If getting out is your priority, cut everything that keeps you from leaving.

Get a cheap used truck, a cap for on the back, some yard tools and a good lawn mower and get off your but and get busy generating income.

Your whining online isn't getting you anywhere you want to go.

Get going!
 
As I'm reading all these suggestions a couple of thoughts come to mind. Take them for what they're worth,

If you've got a bit of money you might think about buying a tent and some camping equipment. Some state parks that have camping also offer amenities like toilets and showers. Just something to think about, personally I'd much rather sleep in a tent than in a car (unless the car is a '74 Buick!).

You might also want to consider some smaller cities, such as Worcester or Springfield, MA. Cities with populations around 200,000 can be quite liveable. I'm not saying they have any more jobs than anywhere else, just that the living can be easier than a major city.

OK, there's my 2 cents' worth.
 
so anyway you need to save up 3 or 4 grand and then move to kent or akron, ohio or houston texas, and if things don't go totally bad you can move to a hipper/artier city like cleveland or austin

i moved form pittsburgh to LA and from LA to NY and then back to LA with no trust fund, no job, and no connections other than the broke dudes i met in art school at kent, ohio which is super tiny other than the university

living in a car is not so fun, so try and get an art or music residency for at least a month or a season, another thing that helps is a roomate or at least sharing a divided studio