One person's gig is someone else's non-event: sometimes that's a blessing.
I started playing percussion when I was in 5th grade, and started playing bass around 1968, when I started high school; everyone, it seemed, had a guitar in those days, so I stood out like a sore thumb playing the school's DB and, later, an electric bass of my own.
In those days, my friends and our families played music together just as naturally as breathing. It was just something we did. Some of the guitar players only knew three chords, but they joined in, too. People were more welcoming and supportive back then - as I remember it. We didn't know from gigs, but some of us were invited to play with others in front of groups of people. I was among them.
Without much in the way of planning or deliberate intent, some of us began playing "gigs" without really knowing it. There was no moment when the clouds parted, the angels sang, and I had my first gig. It unfolded gradually, and included performances in various high school music programs, junior theater productions, playing at church, and joining friends who were playing in cafes, parks, and coffee houses. Occasionally, some of us were offered money to play; at first, some gas money to make it worth my while. Then the musicians got free food. Next, it was free food and a few dollars (remember that gas only cost $0.32 per gallon back then).
In hindsight, I'm grateful that events unfolded the way they did. House parties, camping trips, and coffee houses led to wedding receptions and going away parties for friends who'd been drafted and were on their way to Vietnam. By the time I was playing bass in bar bands for regular pay, I'd been playing for about 8 years, but I'd been playing with, and in front of, other people the whole time.
Not a bad way to have learned, if you ask me. Now that arts and music programs are being gutted and removed from the schools, I don't know how kids are supposed to receive a useful music education, unless their parents are insightful and supportive.
Those destined to become musicians always seem to find a way, no matter the obstacles. Persevere. And start playing with others as often as possible, no matter how well, or poorly, you play; that's where the magic happens.
