We don't mic the drums. I wish we had more kick.... but we live with it.
The bass I only run through the PA to get over the top... literally. We rarely have a stage, and when the dance floor fills up we need the bass and lead guitar in the PA so the people at the back can hear.
Ok, once in a while I put some bass in the PA if the sound level has gone way up and the venue is not complaining. Rather than boosting stage volume, I let the PA handle some of it.
Basically, I always connect the bass amp DI to the PA "just in case".
We have never had a problem where the PA couldn't handle the volume. The PA has 2x400W for the mains and 400W for the monitors. This is all the mains and the monitors can handle anyway.
This is for venues up to about 250.... 200 is probably safer.
I think I may be getting it. You still have your amps doing most of the work on the guitars and bass. Going through the PA with a mix to help distribute the volume. Run a little through the PA to reach a bigger area instead of cranking the amps and blowing away the people in front.