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Is income equality important in a relationship?

#41
Some years my wife made more than me. Other years I made more. It doesn't mattered to me.

It works for us because we have similar spending habits. First, it all goes into one account. We save a lot for retirement and don't live beyond our means. Hmm, sounds boring. Maybe I need to spend more on bass equipment.:D

Ben
 
#42
Both my wife and I are students so our incomes are similar in that they are nearly nonexistent. We've been together for 7 years and don't have a joint savings account. I spend what little monies I have outside of paying rent on musical equipment and the like. She does similarly. This wouldn't work for everyone but we aren't exactly 'traditional' in any sense.
 
#43
The best advice i could give on this is that it really depends on the people. Some cases money s everything; other's money is a perk. It depends on your take and on your females. if money is really important to her or to you then it could turn into a situation where the one who makes more money feels as though they are carrying the other person and it could cause bitterness. If money isn't all that important to you or her then it doesn't make a diffrence.
 
#44
The man should be making more. The woman should making a home and doing the most important and completely under-rated job of raising the children.

Now that we have embraced the two-income family, we allow other people to raise our children and mistakenly believe that they will instill some form of morality in them. We leave them unattended after school in our endless pursuit of the almighty dollar.

My generation was on the cusp; moving from intact and sensible homes to two-income, latchkey households.
 
#45
OctoberMooN said:
The man should be making more. The woman should making a home and doing the most important and completely under-rated job of raising the children.

Now that we have embraced the two-income family, we allow other people to raise our children and mistakenly believe that they will instill some form of morality in them. We leave them unattended after school in our endless pursuit of the almighty dollar.

My generation was on the cusp; moving from intact and sensible homes to two-income, latchkey households.
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Wow. Nice brow ridge you got there.

For the record, we were a single-income household for over 18 years. We chose to raise our own children and paid the price. That said, I would agree that when it's a realistic option, SOMEONE other than a third party should be raising the children. Not sure how gender plays into that equation though. :rollno:

Anyhoo, we moved recently and my today my wife got picked up for a juicy contract job (as a result, I've got about half a bottle of Moet & Chandon in me). It's still only about half what I make, and we don't really need the money. But with kids in college, it helps take the edge off.

I would have been perfectly happy if she made 10 times what I make though. I like Moet & Chandon. :cool:
 
#47
lump said:
Wow. Nice brow ridge you got there.

For the record, we were a single-income household for over 18 years. We chose to raise our own children and paid the price. That said, I would agree that when it's a realistic option, SOMEONE other than a third party should be raising the children. Not sure how gender plays into that equation though. :rollno:

Anyhoo, we moved recently and my today my wife got picked up for a juicy contract job (as a result, I've got about half a bottle of Moet & Chandon in me). It's still only about half what I make, and we don't really need the money. But with kids in college, it helps take the edge off.

I would have been perfectly happy if she made 10 times what I make though. I like Moet & Chandon. :cool:
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We bit the bullet and raised our kids at home.

Best investment we ever made.

Cost us all the new cars like the ones our friends got.
Cost us all the cruises our friends took.
Cost us all the housing upgrades our friends made.
Cost us all the tuition we paid for great colleges
our kids went to.

And we had none of the family issues our
friends who were never at home with their kids
had. Go figure.

That's no recipe for anyone else, nor a guarantee.

But kids take a lot of time to nurture. I put music on
hold for a lot of years to give my time to these things.

When you get older, and you have the chance, come back
to the music. You will find that many of your contemporaries
will have given music up.

Never give up.

Never
 

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