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Is income equality important in a relationship?
- Thread starter Loose Cannon
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It doesn't matter if I or my future wife were to make more money, as long as I made enough money to pay my own way if necessary. I would definitely feel somewhat degraded asking my wife for $50 to go get some groceries.
I like the idea of a joint account with separate investments and each person having an outside account as well. Maybe just toss spending money in it and have the joint account as savings/bills.
I like the idea of a joint account with separate investments and each person having an outside account as well. Maybe just toss spending money in it and have the joint account as savings/bills.
After 26 years of bring married it's all one big pool of income to me. In our case my day gig income pays all of the monthly expenses. My wife's income goes into savings/investments. My band gig income is partially used for BS spending on totally unnecessary things and the other part gets dumped into savings.
I'd totally love it, LOVE IT, if my wife made more cake than me ....
I'd totally love it, LOVE IT, if my wife made more cake than me ....
My wife makes about 20% more than I do at her 9-5 (she has a MA, I have a BS) and then teaches 2 college level classes on top of that, so in the end she makes about 45% more than I do. It all goes into the same pot to pay the bills, retirement and investments, and thats working really well, but we have yet to work out a really satisfactory way for each of us to have a little fun money. There haven't been fights about it yet, but we also often don't spend money on things that we want and can afford, for fear of making the other person uncomfortable. I think this will be the year that we work something out. She deserves to have some fun money, and so do I (though maybe not as much as she does).
Im pretty comfortable making less than my wife, so its not that important to me, we just need to work out a few things so that we can both be happier.
Im pretty comfortable making less than my wife, so its not that important to me, we just need to work out a few things so that we can both be happier.
The more money she makes the more Sadowskys I get!
Burk, I have a feeling no one will dispute this with you or call you an ass...for once.
I wish. I paid twice as much in tax than my wife made last year, and it all goes into one account.
It doesn't matter in our house. My fiancee makes about twice what I do (unless I get a few good composing jobs). It all goes in the same account, and we communicate about what we spend indiviudally.
It shouldn't matter if both understand money.
The "one account" thing works fine until the constant overdraft notices happen caused by one party or if one partner has no clue about what the phrase "financial responsibility" means.
The "one account" thing works fine until the constant overdraft notices happen caused by one party or if one partner has no clue about what the phrase "financial responsibility" means.
As soon as I read that, I thought, "He must be a teenager."
So I took a peek at your profile and see you're 19.
Just wait until you get a few years experience as an adult and you realize that everything in life costs money. Even the supposedly "free" stuff. Then you'll be jaded and cynical, just like the rest of us geezers.
Yes, he's right. It only took 1 year of "life"(read: once I turned 21)to become a jaded, cynical, future dirty-old-man-in-training because up until that point I was merely a sarcastic ass...and it's not getting any better. Love beer.
That means you are hooked up.
It also means that I dont need to work that hard or pay out alot of money in a divorce.
It doesn't matter what comes in but it does matter what goes out. If one spends more than the other it'll cause some havoc.
I think it should all go into one big pot, because you're a team! And you should both get equal say on how it's spent. Just because one person makes more doesn't mean they get MORE say over the money.
I've seen people try to do the "I pay for my stuff, you pay for yours and we split the bills" but I agree, it's just like being roommates. And if one person buys a couch, does that mean the other person can't sit there? If one makes more, can they just do more things than the other? Do they split restaurant tabs too?
I grew up in a house where my dad made a lot more than my mom but she worked the same number of HOURS a day. My dad felt that because he made more he could relax after work and my mom should do everything else around the house to make up for the fact that she made less money. Totally unfair if you ask me!
I don't care who makes more, me or him. I would care I guess if he didn't make much because he was a lazy ass and was sponging off of me. I think I could tell the difference--at least now I can!
I've seen people try to do the "I pay for my stuff, you pay for yours and we split the bills" but I agree, it's just like being roommates. And if one person buys a couch, does that mean the other person can't sit there? If one makes more, can they just do more things than the other? Do they split restaurant tabs too?
I grew up in a house where my dad made a lot more than my mom but she worked the same number of HOURS a day. My dad felt that because he made more he could relax after work and my mom should do everything else around the house to make up for the fact that she made less money. Totally unfair if you ask me!
I don't care who makes more, me or him. I would care I guess if he didn't make much because he was a lazy ass and was sponging off of me. I think I could tell the difference--at least now I can!
Dudes that throw a fit that their gurl is makin' more are the epitome of a self-esteem issue, IMO! Kinda like the small-peckered dude that just HAD to have the Hummer to compensate for their lack of other manly vehicles!!! (the truck, your pervs!!!)
