Just Say No (it really is that simple)

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BUT! P)

there are some spaces in between worth discussing here.
sometimes you need a metal push.
things arent always that black/white, theres a lot of grey spaces in between.

and afterall, like someone who's name i cant recall said: "this is TALKbass"

peoples need to talk about this kind of stuff here




so, keep rocking and think about yourselve while doing that

 

No

 

I once joined a band that was very misleading. It ended up being a guitar Nazi situation, where my song suggestions went out the window and at rehearsals we only ran through songs he liked to play. He refused to learn anything he didn't care for, even if the band vote was to learn the song. It took about three months of that for me to quit. The thing is, it started out looking and sounding like a dream gig. I guess they wasted my time. I goes both ways.

 

"Just say no". Didn't work for Nancy Reagan, won't work here.

When one talks about "expectations", sometimes one is referring to assumptions.

We voted in a new keyboard player one time into a band that was going well for a couple of years. Within a month, he walked off with half the band.

Delving into the details of a situation is sometimes the only way to learn something about yourself in relation to others, especially when one is short on experience.

 

I have to say I am with you on this one Stumbo.

There are people that lack experience that can definitely benefit from the advice and insight of those of us with more experience.

This "it's music not, brain surgery comment" stuff is droll and myopic as well. There are people that have spent as much time studying music as any given brain surgeon had studied and take it every bit as seriously. Music is science and mathematics and psychology and art all combined. Complex stuff right there, not to mention the professional and business aspects of being a serious professional musician.

Maybe if you don't see the complexity in music it's because your approach is lacking in complexity and probably about as uninteresting as the comment about brain surgery, too.

 

If I've learned anything by playing music it's that there are and never will be absolutes.

Have guidelines, sure. But never write something off entirely; evaluate every situation as it comes.

 

Hey, theres some younger folkson here, or just folks in general new to the music thing. They want advice from seasoned musicians...nothing wrong with that. Its good to see what others think about the situation and take their opinions into consideration. I personally dont mind giving my advice, and often times these people are in situations I once experieneced myself. Isnt that why were here? Thats why this is the "Band Management" thread. If you dont like reading about peoples problems, move on to the next topic. Just say no, it really is that simple!

 

Well said.