I see threads here asking "what do I do" "what should I do" and other derivations of that question. Every band has its ups and downs. If the downs outweigh the upside or if you think they will outweigh the pros of joining the band, then just say no, it really is that simple. If someone approaches you and asks if you'd be interested in auditioning/joining their band, find out what style of music it is and other pertinent details of the band and if you don't like what you hear, then just say no. Again, it really is that simple. If you're unhappy with a band you're currently playing in then quit, thats not exactly saying no but it is still relevant to the topic at hand and yes it really is that simple. Don't waste the bands time by going to arrange an audition for a band that you know isn't going to be your cup of tea and don't join a band that you don't think its going to meet your expectations. You're not only wasting the bands time (because they could be actively auditioning more serious candidates) you're also wasting your own time because you could be home honing your skills and seeking a project that is more suitable to you. Its music not brain surgery I think if we all do a little soul searching the answer will often times be found right in front of our face. This ends your public service announcement/rant.