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Love isn't for all, right ?

If she ain't ready for a real relationship yet, then she ain't ready. Further, she may never be ready. My advice is to keep her as a friend, but expand your circle and date a few other women for a while. If something gels, fine, but in the meantime you're at least out of the house / job rather than moping around. I know quite a few people who didn't find their 'true loves' (if you'll pardon that hackneyed term) until they were in their 40s, so don't let the 'ticking of the time clock' make you rush to try and find someone.
 
Honestly, women like things they can't have. Best way to have tons of girls interesting in you is actually dating ANOTHER girl. They love to feel that they can get your attention on her when you already have a girlfriend. That would be also one reason why women like men that lots of other women are interested into. They wanna feel like the ONE in all those other women THAT YOU HAVE THE POSSIBILITY TO BANG. If YOU make her feel like the ONE, there is no competition, no other girls that you could bang, they don't feel desired, they aren't attracted. I know it sounds contradictory, but it is what research says.

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If she ain't ready for a real relationship yet, then she ain't ready. Further, she may never be ready. My advice is to keep her as a friend, but expand your circle and date a few other women for a while. If something gels, fine, but in the meantime you're at least out of the house / job rather than moping around. I know quite a few people who didn't find their 'true loves' (if you'll pardon that hackneyed term) until they were in their 40s, so don't let the 'ticking of the time clock' make you rush to try and find someone.
a guy from work has had a few of those "on line friends" and we usually bet how long it will last before she tries to hit him up for some cash.....once they find out he's broke....sayonara