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Member who is drastically younger/older?

Thanks for all the advice, people.

I can imagine that it might be a little strange, I'm old enough to be his father and in one case another member is old enough to be his grandfather. We probably don't have a lot in common, except maybe we all like music.

When he talked to the drummer, he said he was having a real difficult time finding a "clean" band (drugs, booze) to play with, and one that wanted to do a diverse setlist (which he wants to do).

At this point I guess there's not a lot more to say, we will see if he is serious and we will give him a shot. I mean, after all, it isn't like guitarists are lining up for the job from what I can see. We really are looking for a unique person, so it might take a while.
 
When Arthur showed up at our door, he was 20, and we had just discussed our rule of no one under 35.

We heard him play; liked his look; checked our instincts, and said, "you're in."

Just like that.

He's been playing with us four years.

Sometimes he's late. Sometimes he acts like a goofy kid. Sometimes we roll our eyes and wonder what's wrong with Junior.

But we have NEVER regretted bringing him on board, and honestly, I hope he never leaves.

Do NOT tell him I said that.
 
When Arthur showed up at our door, he was 20, and we had just discussed our rule of no one under 35.

We heard him play; liked his look; checked our instincts, and said, "you're in."

Just like that.

He's been playing with us four years.

Sometimes he's late. Sometimes he acts like a goofy kid. Sometimes we roll our eyes and wonder what's wrong with Junior.

But we have NEVER regretted bringing him on board, and honestly, I hope he never leaves.

Do NOT tell him I said that.

Your secret is safe with me.
 
Go for it. I was 16 when I started gigging in clubs with band members in their 30's. I'm now 49, and play in a band with a 31 year old singer, 59 year old drummer, 62 year old keyboard player and 62 year old guitar player.
 
I started gigging bars at 17, the rest of the band was 35-40.
My salesman at the local music store hooked me up with them.
I made good money and payed my way thru college every semester.
I lasted 3 years with them. I am glad they gave me a chance.
Give the kid a chance.
 
I say go for it. I've been playing since I was 7, and older musicians always let me jam with them or be in bands with them. It was never a problem and I started playing my first gigs in bars at 16.

I'm 35 now, so I'm not the young guy in the bands anymore - but if he's looking for a group of "clean" guys to play with I'd say certainly give him a shot.

I've been clean now 13 years (yup, I do those 12 step meetings) - and I can say even at my age; finding other guys my age who don't get wasted all the time or think practice is an excuse to kill a case of beer is still kind of hard.
 
My last band was all 40-50 somethings and our singer quit. We auditioned a few and the guy with the best chops, presence and fit with the rest of the band was 23. We disbanded a couple of years ago and the only one I still hang out with from time to time is the 23 year old (well, 26 now). He's studying to become a nurse now... you just never know. Age can tell you a lot, but it can also be an illusion...
 
Check your state laws regarding live entertainment in venues that serve alcohol.

Good luck.

Btw, I'd give him a shot just like anyone else. Advanced age does not always equal maturity.

After doing some digging, here in Mass there are some guidelines but he does not have to be 21 to perform in a bar. He could actually be as young as 14, which is the legal working age in this state. He cannot be on the premises if he is not working, basically he cannot be there in the same capacity a patron would be. So for our purposes, the state allow would allow him to perform there. Whether club owners decide to allow it is another story.

I'm hoping he is going to come down and audition. The drummer is the one talking to him.

Now derailing my own thread......

I've gotten a lot of interest from the ads I posted but not one single person has chosen to audition. I thought we had one but he chose not to audition stating he does not have the time (or ambition) to learn our songs. It's frustrating.

Here are the issues;

Some that were interested are too far away (over an hour commute).
Some did not want to work with another guitarist.
Some wanted to gig more than we intend to.
Some wanted to gig less than we intend to.

But the biggest problem has been.....our song selection, primarily the diversity in it. Person after person has stated that while the band sounded like a great time (some liked the audio clips I sent them), they just simply were not interested in doing such a variation in music. We cover a wide range of stuff. For example, you will find Elvis' "Little Sister", and then there's Luke Bryan's "Country Girl Shake It For Me", and then there's Better Than Ezra's "Good", then it jumps over to Dire Straits' "Money For Nothing", then you get to play Sly And The Family Stone's "Thank You" and a little bit of AC/DC's "Big Balls". Then you can bang out Theory Of A Deadman's "Lowlife".

None of these tunes are particularly musically straining, if you know what I mean.

We did this on purpose, we wanted to put together a really diverse song list of all kinds of tunes that people liked that would appeal to a wide audience, the focus being on dancing and having fun. We all can play different styles of music and we enjoy not being locked into one particular style. If given the preference, we each like something, I like country, the drummer likes disco, the guitarist likes southern rock, the singer likes 90's pop-rock, but we all enjoy that we can play the different styles appropriately, we liked the challenge of learning and performing a lot of different types of music and we knew we could put together something that, really, no other local band is doing (the area is dominated by genre-specific bands, especially classic rock).

Here's where I'm thinking this kid might work out, or at least we should give him a shot He wants to play, he wants to gig, like, BAD. I'm finding with older, more experienced people they are more interested in what they are playing versus the opportunity to gig (we are actually getting offers consistently NOW). A lot of people seem to like being "genre players" for cover bands. We don't (intentionally) gig often enough to attract guys who are willing to just do it for the money, because there isn't a lot when you only play once or twice a month, these guys want 8 shows a month.

We knew going in to this that we were doing something somewhat unusual. For what we do, we probably need somebody young and hungry who is more about the opportunity to perform than they are about what is being played.
 
5 years ago I worked in a trio, we were in our 50's.
We brought in a 17 year old girl singer for the summer. She was a music student and needed some experience. We did look rather odd. We did coach her a lot.
Three years ago she was touring & singing with Trans-Siberian Orchestra.