I didn't say that having a music stand somwhere off to the side was douchebaggery. Havng one at the front of the stage though certainly looks that way to me. I think the key here is to have it somewhere that isn't visible from the audience perspective.
When I go see a band, the visual is as big as the sound for me. It is a "show" after all isn't it? That implies that there is some kind of visual. So unless you're playing Count Bassie, having a black music stand in the middle of the stage looks totally lame to me.
From that perspective, I agree with you.

... A hoodie, jeans and sandals might not be right for a wedding or BB Kings either.