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Need some career advice

Boom762

Boom762

I AM the one who Booms!
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Oct 19, 2013
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#1
My fiance said she wont married me now if I dont have an education of some sort. Everytime I find a degree that I want to go for I get kicked in the teeth woth added education. Radiation theropist, rad tech, dental hygenist, and now surgical tech. All are either not offered at all in lubbock or require an education before I can get their education. What are some sound careers I could go for with a small amount of education.

I was excited for surgical tech because we were supposed to get married in a year and i was told thats about how long it would take to get that education but got bent over again with that one.
 
#4
Ive got some cousons that work with the turbines but are all highly skilled welders. I really dont have any hands on skills. Im going to start researching thebturbines noe though and see what all is offered.

Edit: my dad is a respitory theropist and told me its a dieing field. Most nurses are trained to do his job now as a part of his job. He had wanted me to do dialosis if i couldnt get the surgical tech degree. Researching all sugvestions though.
 
#6
So your lady will date you and string you along as you are but has basically said she's going to pull the rug out from under you? NICE GIRL.

Put off the wedding, indefinitely, get some schooling and see what happens later vis-a-vis your future with this, ahem, lady. Cough, cough. Schools are filled with many many, ahem, school- MATES (wink, wink) that might be more supportive and loyal than your current, cough, "friends".
 
#7
96tbird said:
So your lady will date you and string you along as you are but has basically said she's going to pull the rug out from under you? NICE GIRL.

Put off the wedding, indefinitely, get some schooling and see what happens later vis-a-vis your future with this, ahem, lady. Cough, cough. Schools are filled with many many, ahem, school- MATES (wink, wink) that might be more supportive and loyal than your current, cough, "friends".
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I actually think it is just fine the lady wants the OP to up his game. She may very well be a NICE GIRL. I wonder what her education and employment possibilities are? Money is the #1 cause of marital discord, she is dead on with the OP needing to step it up if he wants to play house.

My last 2 wives I intentionally avoided women with jobs that didn't require an education or some advanced training - why should all the financial burdens fall on one half of a couple? I find women with good-better jobs sexy. Needy women are such a drag imo. Needy men are just pathetic.

The OP's lady may feel SHE is the one being strung along..."he keeps saying he will get some education so we will have a more stable future together." I think the old song "Keep your hands to yourself" could be just as much about him not being able to afford a wedding ring as him not proposing. Proposing with an empty hand is just so over-rated.

You sound really cynical dude - why should the OP consider dumping her for someone else in school? IF a women is in school they probably are someone who considers school important. OP could hook up with someone he finds at school and end up in the same place if he doesn't FINISH school. Because nice girls have been told by their daddies they are worth it. That's what good dads do.

BOT - OP, think about what skills or inclinations you have and consider going that way. Education always seems like a really long road but just getting on it can up your spirits. It's something pro-active you are doing for yourself, for her and for your future whether with her or not. Money won't make you happy but it sure does help.
 
#8
Go find something you think would be interesting and commit to being educated. Your decisions now will have lifelong consequences. There is no substitute for education and the longer you put it off the more difficult it will be.

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Boom762 said:
My fiance said she wont married me now if I dont have an education of some sort. Everytime I find a degree that I want to go for I get kicked in the teeth woth added education. Radiation theropist, rad tech, dental hygenist, and now surgical tech. All are either not offered at all in lubbock or require an education before I can get their education. What are some sound careers I could go for with a small amount of education.

I was excited for surgical tech because we were supposed to get married in a year and i was told thats about how long it would take to get that education but got bent over again with that one.
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I am not saying this to be snarky or insulting, but you really need remedial English classes. Your inability to form a cogent sentence even here on an Internet forum is a telling sign that you are going to struggle with higher education if you choose to go that route.

Another thing I think you should look into is skilled labor. You will notice I put the emphasis on the word "skilled." As TV personality Mike Rowe continually harps on, this country doesn't put enough stock into the skilled trades like plumbers, electricians, welders, etc. There are tons of jobs that require not a college education, but a trade school type of education, and they pay VERY well! In retrospect, I really wish someone had told me about doing something like that in life rather than going the college route. What you learn in trade school will be with you the rest of your life, while literally everything I learned in college in the 90's is now obsolete.
 
#10
If you don't have the educational requirements to get into a course, are there any summer schools or access courses?

Over here there are access courses which essentially guarantee entry to a University position on completion, likewise with summer courses (though the summer courses tend to be run by the universities themselves).

My advice would be to approach the administration and possibly an academic head (of course) at any University & course you are really interested in. Put it on the table -

*I want to study THIS course
*I want to study at THIS university
*I have these qualifications
*What do you need ME to do for entry on said course

Bar all things going weird and messy in a carpark, I'm sure they'd give you the right advice to get going :)
 
#11
96tbird said:
So your lady will date you and string you along as you are but has basically said she's going to pull the rug out from under you? NICE GIRL.

Put off the wedding, indefinitely, get some schooling and see what happens later vis-a-vis your future with this, ahem, lady. Cough, cough. Schools are filled with many many, ahem, school- MATES (wink, wink) that might be more supportive and loyal than your current, cough, "friends".
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Speaking from experience from a kind of similar experience, think about this. A lot. A - LOT.

Think what would happen if you were married and things went wrong. Say, you lost your job? Will she stick by your side when you have pasta for 25 nights a month?

You marry a person because no matter what you'll love them, you'll be on their side. She won't marry you because you won't have education of some sort? :hmm:

Maybe her heart is in the right place, as in education is priceless but she has a problem stating it.:eyebrow:



ps: Ask her to get a boob job.:D;);)
 
#14
I'd look into vocational offerings as well as online studying. I'm not sure I would sink a ton into education, but I'm one of those outliers that skews the numbers. Getting into Welding is simple enough, as is electrical, plumbing, HVAC etc. If you're so inclined.
If you want the more advanced medical stuff, then you're looking at a B.S. degree + extra tacked on. But you can always start as an RN with I think 2 years of schooling.
If you want to go IT, you can usually get your foot in the door with a high school diploma doing phone support. Then you can work on an associates degree or higher if you want (or certs, specialty study etc) on your own time and move up the ladder.

No matter what, I wouldn't go into a lot of debt over school/education.

I won't really comment on the "Get education or no marriage" bit. I hate to even comment on your typing/communication skills on this forum since it is, well, a forum. But if you truly have issues communicating, typing, speaking etc., an education will be helpful. I don't know your situation or ambitions and goals in life. If you have a high school diploma, but no job and no drive, an education is not likely to help with that.
Mostly, come up with a plan and go after it though, starting with a metric ton of research. Good luck on your endeavor.
 
#15
96tbird said:
I may be cynical but reality's a biatch.
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Especially if you treat her like one. Getting a "tripod"(3 legs, think about it...) is easy, she doesn't want to put her camera on an unstable one, the pictures may be around for a long time.
Many people get relationship butt hurt because they are too
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Please note, that guy has no apparent wallet outline, he may need a job.:rolleyes:

machine gewehr said:
ps: Ask her to get a boob job.:D;);)
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She may already have a boob. Or did you mean to type "get her boob a job"?:hiding::D

I actively counsel my 2 daughters not to hook up with guys who aren't going at an commensurate speed with their lives. They both worked their butts off in high school, one picking up several college credits and several thousand in scholarships. Her little sister scooped up a full tuition scholarship in an honors college. My family was poor and my grades weren't quite as good as their, despite taking all the college prep they had college wasn't happening for me fresh out of the gate. I went to work in tool & die at 18, didn't go to college until in my early 30s. Statistically few pull the later-in-life pull-ups. Normally intelligent people weigh situations based on current and best knowledge - you know, like when we can bandmates.

The writing is on the wall OP - it doesn't have to be a negative. She is giving you a chance to pick up the pace. You'll be a better man for it with or without her.
 
#20
If you are choosing education and a career based solely upon the amount of time it is going to take, you are setting yourself up for failure. There are a number of relatively short certificate programs in certain fields from for-profit diploma mills, but you might as well wipe your ass with those credentials. If what you want to do requires a year or two to get an associate's degree from a reputable school, then make the sacrifice.

My guitarist's son was set to go to a mechanic vocational school, but bailed at the last minute, thinking "it would be too much like high school." If he started when he was supposed to, he'd be graduating right about now. My guitarist wanted his son to be able to "pick a job" rather than "take a job." Hopefully he gets his head screwed on and goes to school.
 

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