Newer member not feeling "included"?

[DwaynieAD]

to add to the "just ask him crowd" dont say something along the lines of

"hey man, how come you dont ever come hang out with us outside of practice, what the heck? do you not like us?"

make sure if ur going to ask him it just seems curious like

"hey man we'd totally like for you to come hang out with us after practice, maybe grab a sno cone or something, if u got the time or whatver"

 

[dvh]

IMO hanging out with you practicing for two hours would be enough with you. Perhaps he does feel included and has my personality type. I rarely hang with my fellow musicians from any band. I'm even friends with many, but there is a life outside the band. All of my bandmates also get a lot of my free time, learning all the parts etc. away from the bands.
Gigs, dinners on the road, road time together, the occasional phone call is quite enough.

Me too, exactly...

 

[DwaynieAD]

I'm the new guy in my band, so i still hold my tongue on certain issues, or when i find myself taking charge i sometimes back off cuz i dont wanna seem like a D!(k

at our third gig together they all said to me collectively

"we're glad you found us man, ur an @$$hole just like us, u fit right in"

 

[dvh]

I'm the new guy in my band, so i still hold my tongue on certain issues, or when i find myself taking charge i sometimes back off cuz i dont wanna seem like a D!(k

at our third gig together they all said to me collectively

"we're glad you found us man, ur an @$$hole just like us, u fit right in"

Who says guys aren't thoughtful.....