Man you had good mojo, that sure as hell wasn't my experience.
Good mojo?; perhaps; I certainly wouldn't dismiss it. However, there are another two reasons which might explain why our individual experiences were so different i.e.,
1/ Location: As I have mentioned, I'm a Scot and I live "north of the border". Things are different up here. Okay, it's ****ing cold, it rains a lot, etc., but there's good stuff too. I'm not sure what things are like where you are (South East England, right?) but, I guarantee you a cordial welcome and a pleasurable stay, should you decide to venture north of Carlisle to sample bass playing in Scotland. Perhaps, a change of venue would really make a difference;
2/ Cost: You see, what I didn't mention before was that my trouble free life as a bass player came at a cost. I'll not get into the details but, suffice to say, you will no doubt know the story about Robert Johnson's visit to the crossroads, right? Well, let's just say 1/ it ain't no "story" and 2/ it ain't no isolated case either; if you see what I mean ... at least, I thought it was a fair trade.
Okay, I'm being frivolous but the invitation is genuine.