Sorry, OP. I agree with your guitarist that soundcheck is not the time to do this. That is what 1) home practice and 2) band rehearsal is for. And more number 1 than 2.
Many times, that “wonderfully nuanced tone” you’re working so hard to achieve is not a workable sound in the context of the band’s overall mix. Same thing applies to the guitarist, BTW.
One suggestion I have is to record yourself “dress rehearsing” a song with both a dry and wet split. Your guitarist could do the same. With tracks recorded from keys, same process. Drums recorded in isolation. Then re-amp your part to see what changes you could make to fit the song’s mix better. If the guitarist and/or keys player can do this with you, it’s an excellent learning opportunity to get a better mix overall, and to see which nuances work, and which do not.
A lot of effort? Absolutely. Is it worth it? IME, yes.
Many times, that “wonderfully nuanced tone” you’re working so hard to achieve is not a workable sound in the context of the band’s overall mix. Same thing applies to the guitarist, BTW.
One suggestion I have is to record yourself “dress rehearsing” a song with both a dry and wet split. Your guitarist could do the same. With tracks recorded from keys, same process. Drums recorded in isolation. Then re-amp your part to see what changes you could make to fit the song’s mix better. If the guitarist and/or keys player can do this with you, it’s an excellent learning opportunity to get a better mix overall, and to see which nuances work, and which do not.
A lot of effort? Absolutely. Is it worth it? IME, yes.
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