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Man, you are going to make me be "that guy" again. I had a marriage like that once. I call it my "first marriage". It didn't last. Just be up front. If you want something, tell her. THEN buy it. If you guys can afford it, there shouldn't be an issue. If you guys CAN'T afford it, you shouldn't be a dipstick and buy another bass.
Sorry for the lecture. I just hope people can learn from my mistakes rather than their own.
Sorry for the lecture. I just hope people can learn from my mistakes rather than their own.
K. Fine. Keep hiding major purchases from your wife and trying to cover up wrongdoing by buying her off. Sounds like you have everything under control. Your relationship is obviously on the right track. Good luck with that.
Lighten up there sugar boobies. I'm not all that serious either.
Fine. I'll play. A tennis bracelet should get you a Sadowsky. Is that better?
K. Fine. Keep hiding major purchases from your wife and trying to cover up wrongdoing by buying her off. Sounds like you have everything under control. Your relationship is obviously on the right track. Good luck with that.
Lighten up there sugar boobies. I'm not all that serious either.
Fine. I'll play. A tennis bracelet should get you a Sadowsky. Is that better?
Minor purchase* and she doesn't like tennis and a Sadowsky would be something I'd have to talk to her about.
Actually it sounds just like you're asking for marriage advice.
Would you want her being devious or indirect?
Do you do the dishes so she will be affectionate?
Or do you both do what needs to be done around the house which includes affection?!
Can you be fans of the other's interests and budget for them?
I think we've found the root of the problem. 
Fixed it fer ya.
And in the interests of helping out passive aggressive bass players everywhere (we all are aren't we, well maybe except for Floyd) I present the Wife to Talkbass currency conversion chart...
go shopping with her = felt pick
go clothes shopping with her = one of TB member wife's homemade bass mutes
going downtown = Basic rounds 4 string set
take over her shift of night feeding the infant = TI or Pyramid flat set
New set of kitchenware and clean out the garage = Tiesco 70's craigslist bass
Swarovski = Sadowsky
lifetime membership donation to PETA = real tort guard
marriage = vintage pre-cbs P bass
divorce = Wal bass
Wow. As soon as I learned that Gibson was making left-handed Thunderbirds, I mentioned it to my wife and she said, "I'll pay for some of it for your birthday!"
It's not the 'payoff model' it's the 'collateral damage' model.
As long as the income and outgo remain in relative balance, harmony is maintained.
I have my interests, she has hers, and there are always house expenses.
It can be a rocky month when all three line up, but usually and with planning it works out. I've deferred something I wanted because of something she wanted, and vice versa. And we've both backed off when the house needs something.
Why would I not want her to be able to get something she wants? We are not independently wealthy, but we can usually get what we want - just not all at once...
As long as the income and outgo remain in relative balance, harmony is maintained.
I have my interests, she has hers, and there are always house expenses.
It can be a rocky month when all three line up, but usually and with planning it works out. I've deferred something I wanted because of something she wanted, and vice versa. And we've both backed off when the house needs something.
Why would I not want her to be able to get something she wants? We are not independently wealthy, but we can usually get what we want - just not all at once...
how about your wife shouldn't tell what u can and cant buy. u should each have your own money that is YOURS to do what u want with. If you save YOURS for a bass then she should have NO say.
I'm not sure what the point of the OP is, that bribing his wife to buy musical equipment is a good thing? Sheesh.
By the way, tennis rules! Tennis bracelets, meh.
By the way, tennis rules! Tennis bracelets, meh.
My ex-wife used to play that game too.
My new, much hotter, girlfriend complains about nothing unless I ask her to help me load in.
just sayin.....
My new, much hotter, girlfriend complains about nothing unless I ask her to help me load in.
just sayin.....
