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Soulless bandmates part2. They never reply to emails!

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crow01

Sep 1, 2008
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chicago
#1
Sheeez. This is getting on my last nerve now.

I write emails to these guys and they never reply. I know they got the emails, I see them online on myspace. I ask them about the song list, the gig, the demos, etc.

I kinda sound like a stalker, but this is so annoying. They never reply. Like never. None of them. I am playing with mutant vampires from mars.

I mean if email replaced all other kind of communication, why is it that is so impersonal.

I think email needs a big upgrade or I will spend a few hours looking for a new band.

Don't you hate it that people don't reply to emails, or am I the only one here?
 
#3
My band have a really wierd setup, we all work for the same company and sit e-mailing each other regarding band shiz' all day...sometimes up to 100+ emails!!

I do know what you mean though about how annoying it is when band mates do not return messages...especially if they are friends because then you are in the unknown band area of "buisness/personal relationship"...kinda like sleeping with a work colleague if you get me?

I'd sit them down and tell them that its got to stop, or alternatively find yourself a new band with members who are as committed as you are!

Hope that helps!
 
#5
Well, i seem to be in the same boat as you are. I don't bombard them with e-mails, i have sent maybe 2 in a week and i get no response or days to get a reply. In other bands i have been in communications were allot better. It makes me wonder how serious these guys are, so no...you are not out of line unless you are flooding them with e-mails.
 
#7
not stalking email. more like 1 email per week. no call during the day cause i don't want to interrupt anybody at work or whatever it is that they do.

the texting is weirder cause they tend to mass text, so I don't know if the message is to me in particular.

more like a 1 page email of thoughts, ideas, etc. From which nobody ever replies. Maybe I am trying too hard and nobody really cares. So why bother?

Just practice, play and shut my mouth. Or just find people with some soul.
 
#9
Weird. Seems to me like e-mail is a no-brainer to keep everyone in a band coordinated and things running smoothly. I do know that some companies are cracking down very hard on "non-business" use of e-mail so your bandmates may be non-responsive out of concern for that (if you're sending band related e-mails to their work accounts). But if you're sending to their personal accounts, there's really no excuse for non-response.

Maybe try texting your bandmates and see if they're more responsive to that. Anymore, in my band if there is vitally important communication we usually wind up doing both (e-mail and texting), just to make sure no one has an excuse.
 
#11
IMHO texting sucks a**. A very weak substitute for e-mail. But, there are certain people who pretty much don't communicate any other way (and/or, have their phone with them a lot more often than they're on a computer), so if you're dealing with a bunch of those I guess you go with the right tool for the job. Adapt and improvise... like all good bassists do :bassist:
 
#12
I have been in bands with guys like these before, and I was the only one who replied to the band leaders which made me feel kinda silly. But the boys delivered what were requested in the emails and feedbacks were done in person during the next meetup, and the leader was cool about it.

Some people are just like that, they just can't think of anything to reply even when all you expect is a simple yes or no. But do they read your emails and respond to whatever you have requests (eg. new songs to learn) the next time you guys meet? If they do, then I guess it's fine.
 

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