Remember that sound proofing is also very frequency dependent. It's nigh impossible to stop low frequencies from passing through wood, so I do the following to help with sound reduction in my wood framed condo:
- Use headphones as much as possible.
- If you have to use a speaker, use a high pass filter. The higher you go and the more aggressive the cut, the less you'll annoy the neighbors.
- Try to put your speaker in a room furthest from where you upstairs neighbors are most likely to be annoyed.
- Try to put your speaker furthest from the walls. Once those sound waves hit the walls, there's no stopping them. Moving your speakers away from the walls will cut some crucial dBs from the the energy before it hits the wall.
- The sound waves (especially bass) will create standing waves (including nulls and peaks) between your floor and ceiling at specific frequencies. Moving your speakers will change the peaks. So will damping the floor. I use thick rugs with the thickest rug mats I can find. It helps. Using some EQ to cut the peak frequencies also helps. Bass traps help with this too.
- Be on their good side... I bring mine cocktails on occasion.
I'd be very suspicious of any claims for soundproofing products. Soundproofing at 500Hz is WAY EASIER than soundproofing at 50Hz.