Maybe you should experiment with sitting lower, with a shorter spike length, with both feet on the ground or (if that's too low to have the stand for your desk partner) with your feet on paddles, or on guitar footrests? Having the paddles or footrests there means you sit as you would when your feet are on the ground, but everything is raised higher. This works for everyone, no matter what your height.
A drawback, at least for me, is that the angle of the bass is difficult to maintain on a higher stool. I like the angle of the bass to be alot more horizontal an angle than normal, and this means, on a high stool, the spike is out as far as it can go. Luckily I have a very long spike

Still feels the same as sitting with both feet on the floor, which is my preferance, but it looks a bit odd when you stand at the end of a concert and the foot of the neck is over your head!