So here is the deal: I moved from the Northeast to FL 3 years ago, answered and audition ad for a cover band , got the gig. I am the newest member. I amazingly like and get along with all which has made it fun, not to mention good musicians. I never have really gelled with the drummer, great guy, but everything rolls off his back. I have even given him MP3s of songs to learn tracks. He can play jazz and all types of stuff, but he always wants to play his way. We rehearse and he gets it down, the next time its a different beat which drives me crazy. The rest of the guys have talked to him and he steadies and then regresses. Also, recently, the guitarists (we have 2) have been somewhat critical of each other in a somewhat silent way. They both come to me and I feel like a mediator. Both have said that they would like for me to be in a band with them if something happens and I just feel stuck in the middle. I almost left about a year ago due to this as I was just feeling like I had to pick sides, not to mention the drummer thing. I gave my notice and they individually called me and talked me into staying. I really like the stuff we do even though I have had to change my in head song library, we get gigs on a frequent basis that fits the band's needs not to play every single weekend , as some still have family commitments, and we get good reviews. It is just I am at wits end with the drummer as we sometimes need to go over a song many times because he keeps changing tempos, and now the guitarists are back at it and pulling me into the middle. So they have agreed to audition new drummers, but the little guitarist riff that I keep getting stuck in has not made it fun. I don't like conflict (been there, done that and too old) and I feel like I am the one trying to get everyone to play nice. I wonder if it is time to move on, without any of the present bandmates since I do not want to take sides. I sometimes think maybe I am too critical of things, and over playing the situation, but I am in this to have a good time not to be irritated. What is one to do???????