Hey TB, more of a reader than a poster here, but I really need to vent this out. Whoever doesn't feel like reading the backstory can skip to the asterisk a bit lower. As of lately I have decided to try and dip my toes in the pro world. At least to the level of my day job paying my rent (which it barely does) and the music paying for the food, gas, etc. etc. Then this * happens. I've had my fair share of hiccups in the past 4 years of very active gigging on bass, stupidly setting fire to some opportunities and coming off as unreliable. But never never never have I ever ever cancelled a gig. I always got a sub up to speed in time if suspected a possibility that I couldn't make the gig, and payed them from my pocket even when they weren't needed. I never got any money from that band, it was an originals band that utilised a band-pot system. Recently I quit that band since I started to see it as a burden to my career growth. Declining quality of songs and shows, no motivation left from anybody and things just started to get personal real bad about stuff that things shouldn't get personal. We were still rehearsing twice a week for 3-4 hours, and it started to seem like precious time wasted. The talks about me leaving the band came out pretty funny/weird/grotesque as we ended up in a big "it's not you it's me" argument, with everyone convinced that the others should move on without them. Except the girl drummer was quiet and crying the whole time. Poor thing, she was so attached to that band and certain we were "gonna go big", can't blame her for not being able to see everything that's been bad and going worse with the band for a year now. Anyways I then input all of my energy into the other band, which I was steadily building up as a cockatil-hour / function band of a very specific breed. No vocals, rather a girl on tenor saxophone playing the melodies to pop songs and lotsa solos and tasty derails of songs. Kinda smooth jazz but not really. That thing took off like a Saturn V rocket I tell ya! It's been a bit more than a year since we started playing. Our first gigs being in the only bar in a village with almost no public transport connections, no drinkable tap water (that's really uncommon in Slovenia) and probably not even on the map. We started as a minimum input maximum output type of band. All of us being sufficiently proficient musicians we'd have one or two rehearsals in the week before a gig and although always playing on the edge of our comfort we had the crowd every. single. time. Fast forward to the beginning of this year. All of a sudden the word got out. We didn't even have a facebook page at this point, none of us really has a name on the scene yet, nothing really. Almost out of nowhere we started getting corporate gigs for very ok money. I'm talking a minimum monthly pay amount for 4 songs + an hour of background music or less. * In may we got booked at a high profile bar in the town centre. The type of place that doesn't pay a lot, but pays above average for a rather short bar gig 1.5 - 2 hrs. They have an outside terrace in one of the town squares and there is always quite a few people that show up no matter the event type. After me and the sax girl had a spontaneous jam with a brilliant Indonesian musician (one man band type of guy) in that very bar, the talks started around town of our upcoming gig a few weeks later. The date was set for the 2. of August. Three days ago, on the day that the facebook event was created and after the promotion for next month's events at the place has been going on for a couple of weeks via fliers and posters across town, the band failed on me. A first for me in the four years of active gigging. The other two musicians (particularly the drummer, though we had the same story with the keys guy a few months ago but after beeing replaced with a brilliant guitarist for a few high-paying gigs he got his **** together so as not to be a drag but kept a low effort attitude nonetheless) requested that I cancel the gig as we were too unprepared and they (he) don't want to make fun of themselves on stage. A week before the gig. One week. After we've known the gig was coming for 72 days. 72 days. We only had one rehearsal in that time, no matter my constant efforts to get people together, to pick which songs we're gonna play, I tried scheduling rehearsals for a month in advance so that we could all take the time to make it to at least few of them, I made google sheets documents for ease of choosing songs and rehearsal dates, everything I could possibly think of. Guess what? Not even one song got proposed or confirmed and the dates we chose for rehearsals suddenly didn't work when they came up. I thought that they were so confident that "we got this" that they would be satisfied with one quality rehearsal in the week before the gig. After all, we've done longer gigs with less rehearsal time that went throught just fine. But not this. You don't simply cancel a gig a week prior when you knew it was coming up for 72 freaking days. Or is my mindset completely upside down?! As musicians both are brilliant, as people and friends also, they've helped me through some really really tough times without a second thought, and I made sure to repay them through and through. But they just don't seem to get some basic commitment to gigs. Lately I've noticed that the drummer has developed a bit of a problem with smoking herbs, and the keys guy is a musical genius who will lose interest if the project doesn't get to Wembley Stadium within weeks (overexaggerating ofcourse, but he used to be seriously flaky). Both of them almost completely lost my trust in the sense of musical cooperation, since I now had to confront the owner of that bar and cancel the gig, there was no way around it. No time for subs this time, the music we were doing was too organic, not the type where you tell someone exactly what to play just to get the gig through, because you'd loose the magic. It was extremely hard for me to tell the owner what really happened, but I'm not the type of person that would make up a story of how someone is really sick just to save their asses, when they did exactly nothing to save mine when this gig would have provided me with two weeks worth of food money. None of them rely on music for income so there's that, they can't quite understand and I know that so I didn't give them a hard time about it, I just told them what was to be told about their attitude towards commitments. I'll also probably think twice if I want them (especially the drummer) on my gig. I could go on with this rant for pages, but I think I've explained the story in the rough. Thanks for taking the time to read this through whoever made it this far. Rant over.