THANK YOU! I have friends, family, co-workers who have for years everytime they see me my band comes up when we are together and they will say " Hey where/when are you playing next? I tell them and some have put it in their phones etc. They say they will be there for sure but they never have shown up in years.
Why do they ask? I don't bring it up or ever tell them at all since I am sick of this game.
Do you think they feel obligated to act interested and act like they will try to come out?
NO!
WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG...
You get the idea.
You could stand me up ten thousand times, and then tell me you're coming out "for sure" next Saturday, and my attitude will be, "well, it will be great to see you there!"
Because to really do this, you have to be totally deluded. When I stalk a stage; play to a room; even practice at my house, I AM A ROCK STAR. Why? Because the music DEMANDS it. I've seen enough "regular Joe" musicians. If they're so regular, why would I want to go see them live?
We're ROCK STARS, and we're TRAINED MONKEYS, and we're WHORES. THAT is the lot of the performer.
You were already a MUSICIAN, and you will always be a MUSICIAN, and no one can take that away from you.
But you have to play the other roles, and you have to learn to live with it. Nobody owes you anything. You are competing with about a billion other cats who have just as much right to be up there as you do.
So make it your best ever time; promote it like people are actually going to come, and most importantly, DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED!!!!!
Your best night may still have yet to come.
For every "instant success" story, there are dozens of other bands who toiled in obscurity for YEARS, and then had that ONE BIG BREAK.
They will come. The can stand you up a thousand times, and still come.
