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What do you do when you lose all your confidence?

Oct 19, 2003
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I'm on a major bass confidence low at the moment. it's likely due to stress. i'm highly strung and this comes out in my playing. i hate this.

Do any of you have any way to get themselves out of a low confidence rut?
 
find one of your friends that thinks he's great at bass but sucks, then remind yourself what an asskicker you are. If you are that friend who thinks he's great at bass but sucks, um find an even suckier fried. If worse comes to worse find a guitar player and ask him to play something for you.
 
Why? What happened? I guess it's like everything else you deal with in life. This bass thing I found is not easy and knew it wouldn't be. If your bummed about your playing and at a wits end get some lessons, or different instructor. Get into different music styles, I got burned out on rock so I am learning jazz and blues now...just overcome it man, it's mind over matter, it's all in your head. You will be Allright!:bassist: The bass will always be there for you.. cheer up!!!
 
I seem to have a confidence problem in a sense that..well...not that I'm not good enough...but that I feel unprepared to play. I know that's probably different from the meaning of your post but what gets me out of that rut is to affirm myself that I am good enough and that if I make mistakes I can only learn from them (what I call 'good mistakes').

When I'm in a rut I like to take a breather. Personally I like to watch music-related movies that inspire me (check out such films as "Amadeus", "Shine" or "Hilary and Jackie").

Ruts are an indication that something needs to be changed. Usually that you need a challenge or maybe just a break away from the instrument.

Remember, they don't last. Don't let it get you down and destroy your confidence. If your confidence is low because you feel your not good enough at playing a certain song...practice it. Practice it until it becomes a part of you. Feel it within. Don't just play the notes. Play the emotion. And like RicPlaya said, the bass will always be there for you. It will always be your friend. Tell it all about the stress you feel your under! :D

Good luck. :)
 
Cheers guys :)

(i especially liked the comment about finding a guitar player)



It's a funny situation i'm in. I'm at a music college you see, trouble is everybody sucks there. It's a really bad year group i'm in, and i'm pretty good at it all and need to be pushed forward but i'm being held back. the frustration from this is getting me so down its comign into my playing

I also have auditions for uni courses coming up, and those on top of this rut does not help!

I took the morning off today though and feel a bit better, so heres hoping!

cheers again for all your responses.
 
Well, you mentioned 'confidence'.

I used to have stage fright so badly that I would
have time distortion, my hands would shake, and I wouldn't necessarily remember to breathe. The only way I beat that was to be so well practised that I could play the song even if I was comatose.

But I think you are talking more about 'hitting the wall' or 'plateau'ing. A state of mind where you are not moving ahead, mentally or musically.

I usually deal with this in a different fashion.
I listen to something harder, that I have difficulty with, but usually I find a piece or two to the puzzle which inspires me. Also, I change genres of my listening music, maybe a Bach or Beethoven, or a fusion jazz group. Or Duke Ellington. Or the Buena Vista Social Club. Nothing like a little Cuban rhythm to break you out of the doldrums.

Re the class, this is a discussion you need to bring into your relationship with your instructors. They all know that musicians progress at different rates. See what they can do to make it more stimulating for you. You deserve to get the maximum benefit from your experience, regardless of the level of progression of your classmates.

Careful what you ask for, you might get it.!
Good luck!

Thor
 
well i have a motown jamerson book which i cracked into, its damned hard ut you're right, doing something difficult and nailign it makes me feel good. i'm also gonna try some rollign stones stuff later, as their bass player i find incredibly good. "miss you" is an exceptional line :)
 
Originally posted by Lewk
well i have a motown jamerson book which i cracked into, its damned hard ut you're right, doing something difficult and nailign it makes me feel good. i'm also gonna try some rollign stones stuff later, as their bass player i find incredibly good. "miss you" is an exceptional line :)

There ya go Lewker!!!!! If these people your in school hold you back you need to study on your own. Bro there is so much instructional info out there, just playing or watching other bassists is instruction. Way to take the matter into your own hands, I hate moving at everyone elses slow, weak pace myself.
 
yeha it sucks, but unfortunately i need to get the certificate to go to the next stage, which should be much more my level. but hell if i can play a jamerson line, i must be an ok bass player!

i'm pretty good at playing other lines, but not great at composing my own. but i guess all that comes with time too. im not doing too badly for 2 years of playing.
 
Bill Wyman, the Stones ex bassist is a good bass player to learn from. He is very bassic, not flashy or fancy, with a very solid time and good blues feel.

There are a lot of better bassists out there, but none would have been as good at locking down the
Stones riffs. He really did make their sound, they don't sound the same with out him, that's for sure, even though they use topnotch guys for their tours. I particularly like 'Get your ya-ya's Out' as a record that is good to play along with and study, of all the Stones releases.

Cool, get the paper, but keep thumpin'!