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What should I do??????

Where should I move?

  • Get my own Place

    Votes: 5 20.8%

  • Move in with the roommate

    Votes: 18 75.0%

  • Screw it, live in a carrot!!!!

    Votes: 1 4.2%
  • Total voters
    24
jady

jady

Jul 21, 2006
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#1
OK, here's my situation. I am moving out from my house. The ex is keeping it and staying there with the kids.

I have 2 options,

1.) Get my own apartment. It will make things pretty tight moneywise with the child support but having your own place has numerous perks.

2.) Move into a room in a house with a guy I work with. It will save me about $600/mo and he has a 2 year old so my kids will have a friend there and they are welcome anytime (the roommates are used to kids being around) He said even if it is only temporary that is cool so if it doesnt work out I am not in a lease or anything.

What to do, what to do........
 
#3
do whatever it takes to get yourself back on your feet!

when i divorced, i had to live with my dad, then i got an apartment (only 440 sq feet - with a 120lbs Rottie as a roommate) - now i'm a homeowner and live by myself (3 bedrooms, 2 Bath)...

get yourself back on your feet. good luck! :)
 
#13
Get your agreement in writing, even if its temporary or not. Even if he's a "good buddy". Sometimes things happen that are not under your control. State law covers landlord/tenant relationships. Both have certain rights.

For example, if one of your kids gets hurt at his house, will his home owner's insurance pay the medical bills? Or what if he loses his job and wants you to leave immediately? All kinds of things may happen. What if one of your kids injures one of his kids? Will you be responsible for the medical bills? Do you have an umbrella policy? Keep all your insurances up to date. You may want to increase your auto insurance limits, especially the medical payments.

I also recommend getting renter's insurance for your stuff. Also put a lock on your bedroom door.

Your local office supply usually has pro-forma rental agreements.

Good luck.

P.S. All the above is based on experience. I don't sell insurance or anything like that.
 
#14
Stumbo said:
Get your agreement in writing, even if its temporary or not. Even if he's a "good buddy". Sometimes things happen that are not under your control. For example, if one of your kids gets hurt at his house, will his home owner's insurance pay the medical bills? Or if he loses his job and wants you to leave immediately. All kinds of things may happen.

I also recommend getting renter's insurance for your stuff.

Your local office supply usually has pro-forma rental agreements.

Good luck.
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great call, friendships can get bruised very easily with just the most minor things... plus i think Jady said they work together, too...
 
#15
I moved into my own apartment after my divorce and things were TIGHT but my sanity was worth more than the money I would have saved living with my parents or a friend. At that point I needed time alone to find myself again and I didn't need my mom hovering over me every second or friends chattering about how happy everything was for them or making sympathetic clucking sounds. It seems like unless someone has been through a divorce, they never really know what to say. Divorces are a mixture of sadness and relief; I don't know how to put that into words.

I played a lot of bass, read a lot of books and enjoyed only having to worry about me. I'm one of those people who holds it together in front of others, so I was glad to not have any "audiences" except my cats.

But that was just me. I didn't have child support to worry about. I'm not really going to advise you either way, not knowing how you handle things. Some people need the support of others, I'm more independent.
 
#19
NJL said:
in addition, if you happen to have health insurance, get some counseling, every little bit helps.. if you don't have insurance, there should be some free counseling available if you look around a bit.
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+1,000,000!!! When my 1st husband and I separated and divorced, I got some counselling through the Austin Y. I paid on a sliding scale according to what I earned at my job. It was something like $7/month. The counselling really, really helped me recover and get back on my feet again.

Cherie
 

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