What should I do?

[Bassace28]

Ok here's my situation: I'm in this crappy cover band (better than no band though) with a couple of friends. It formed when a bunch of friends and I were on a school trip in NYC, when one of my friends suggested that we form a band. So, when we came back to Toronto, we formed our band of 5 (originally 6 because I made my girlfriend band manager but fired her because guitarist doesn't want the band to lose focus). ANYWAYS, the fifth person in our band is suppose to be one of our "lead singers" -_-. But, she has no musical experience, and I'm pretty sure she is only in the band because her boyfriend is the drummer (where we do all of our practice sessions, at his house.) Which leads to a problem.... because if we fire her, mr. drummer will get angry and not let us play at his house anymore and our band will be ruined...... Any thoughts on what I could do?

 

[Jrussblues]

Find another band.

 

[seansv]

Quit

 

[Bassace28]

I've tried quitting, it didn't really work, but if my next session is crap, or if she doesn't get fired for sucking, then I'm quitting. But... If I do quit......... No band at ALL for me.... not many people in my school community that play in bands...

 

[Munjibunga]

Fire her so the band doesn't lose focus.

 

[Icey101]

all the alarm bells are ringing with this example...

but we have learned these lessons, girlfiends etc...and you need to also

stay there and look for another band....then switch over...but stay there to keep your hand in so you are sharp at the next audition

 

[lowfreq33]

If you're still in high school, just hang out and have fun, especially if there's no other musical outlet for you where you live.

 

[ibateur]

or do menial cleaning work at the local music school and swap pay for jamming time with the other students or teachers. That seems to be even one step above from what you have now. Assuming you have a music school nearby

 

[Dave W]

If you're still in high school, just hang out and have fun, especially if there's no other musical outlet for you where you live.

This.

If not, having girlfriends in the band isn't exactly a proven formula. It usually just causes problems. A few have made it work fine, but they are the minority.

 

[guy n. cognito]

Here's something I learned long ago: never be in a band with a "couple." Be it husband / wife, or boyfriend / girlfriend..........it's nothing but trouble. I'd just quit now.

 

[Liam Wald]

Seems like most of the advice so far is to quit and find another band.
In my opinion that advice is 100% correct and you should follow it.

 

[pudgychef]

band of high school friends = awesome way to start out, get a taste of jamming/gigging and a great way to have fun

band of high school 'couples' = a festering pool of jealousy and pettiness - BUT when the drummer and the guitarist's girlfriend walk in on the guitarist banging the drummer's GF - you will all have a great story to share for the rest your lives...

imho

 

[Sixpack324]

Stay in the band while you look for another situation.

When you land another gig, tell the current band that you're uncomfortable with the girlfriend situation....

If it goes south....Just play in the new band...

If the current band surprises you and agrees with you and boots the girlfriend....

Then you have a decision to make....

Although, playing in two bands is always an option. I'm sure there are lots of members here that play in two or more bands. You don't even need to approach the current band with your problem with the girlfriend. Just play in two bands....The current band can be a 'Just for Fun' gig and the new band can be the outlet for your more serious aspirations.

 

[addylewis]

I'd have got rid of the singer to begin with if she isn't any good...maybe ask the rest of the band - then approach the drummer together about the problem...what's the worst that can happen? He leaves and takes his girlfriend with him? Fine, just get another mate to do drums its not rocket science

 

[Munjibunga]

But seriously, folks, since there aren't a lot of other opportunities for you out there, you could stay in this band with the full knowledge that there will eventually be an implosion surrounding the drummer/singer couple. Just take it for what it is at the moment, and roll with the punches when the whip comes down.

 

[Marko 1]

Is this one of those bands that don't play out?

 

[irishmonster100]

band of high school friends = awesome way to start out, get a taste of jamming/gigging and a great way to have fun

band of high school 'couples' = a festering pool of jealousy and pettiness - BUT when the drummer and the guitarist's girlfriend walk in on the guitarist banging the drummer's GF - you will all have a great story to share for the rest your lives...

imho

reminds me of my old band the latter situation of the two is how my old band fell apart on the day i planned on quiting
so accurate its nealy scary

 

[robbotbass]

mini skirt, halter top, and don't plug in her SM58

 

[fdeck]

But seriously, folks, since there aren't a lot of other opportunities for you out there, you could stay in this band with the full knowledge that there will eventually be an implosion surrounding the drummer/singer couple. Just take it for what it is at the moment, and roll with the punches when the whip comes down.

Words of wisdom.

 

[DaDrew2112]

my advice would be to take the lead singer, guitarist and yourself and find a drummer