I went to see a friend playing a tribute set at a small club Saturday. I had a couple beers and chatted with my wife and friends for a bit and it hit me, there’s a kit drummer, 2 electric guitarists, a keyboard player, a bass player, and a keys/percussion player, all amplified and all mixed in FoH and there’s a tall row of wedges and fills. And I’m 30’ off the stage and I can speak to my wife in a conversational “inside voice”.
So “what’s wrong with 2023 audiences” is that live bands with good quality rigs and backed by solid PA are performing so as not to disrupt table talk. It becomes “live” background music when it’s not loud enough. I was listening and attentive and listening and of course I appreciate that it didn’t leave my ears shattered. But it also was about as comparatively quiet as the music in a restaurant.
Point is, turn up. Rock the house and the house will rock with you.
Or blend in. But if you choose to blend in you cede your right to comment on the audience chatting or looking at their phones because when the band started it didn’t get any louder than the background music.