Rhetorical question - I'm not actually looking for an answer.
All the recent talk about BL-vs-Partnership business plans reminded me of a past situation. The band in question imploded several years ago.
It was your standard 'voting democracy' organization with 5 members. The guitar guys thought they were in charge and always voted together when they could be bothered to respond.
We're discussing booking a gig. I tell everyone I'm open for every date except one, for which I have a prior commitment and have for months. So naturally, that's the day they decide to pick; I reminded that I've told them for months I was not available. They said "go get a substitute."
I said no. "You pick a date you know I'm not available, _you_ get a sub. If I have to cancel after I've agreed to a date, _I_ get the sub." Well it turned out that the "voting democracy" members had never bothered to establish any connections outside our own little band; they were clueless on the local scene.
Moral of story (among many others): If you're going to do everything by committee and consensus, "the band" better know how to contact a sub. I expect most actual BL types have some kind of list of contacts for every position in the the band.
So how does it work in your band? Is it your responsibility to hire a sub for your position even if it's because the band decided to go on without you?
My current situation is we don’t have subs. We just don’t book gigs when players aren’t available. (We do have some union horn players we contract, a very short list of guys that know our material and do a good job). The BL posts a potential gig, everyone checks their personnel schedule and reports in with a yeah or nay. The same for the Union guys. Once committed, the rule is, unless you are looking at the wrong side of a lawn, you are expected to be there. This has worked for us for over 50 years now.
I have work in other situations but I think the best way to do this is with an online dedicated band calendar (google calendar works great) with one person responsible for keeping it up to date, preferably the BL, and or the one that actually negotiates the gigs. If there are dates you are not available, contact the one that oversees the calendar and that date is blocked off. If anybody tries to book a gig, the date is blocked off. Period. It’s also a great idea that you follow up with letting the calendar overseer to make sure he actually has updated the calendar with in a day or so to prevent potential issues.
One other point. There are gigs and there are gigs. Giving up a prior commitment to go play at “Joe’s bar and grill for free beer is one thing. A gig where the per member net is north of say $500 a man, and you can’t make it because you’ve committed to going shopping for dog collars for your poodle might not make yourself real popular with your band mates.
Something legitimate, like family obligations, your real job responsibilities pop up and the like, band members should be mature enough to understand if you beg off. And if that was me in this case, instead of saying “I told you months ago I wasn’t going to be available on this date”, I’d busting my hump to find somebody that can fill in so they can make a decent buck.