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why do girls date jerks?

#101
scorpionldr said:
see, tho, the fact is, girls demonstrate their own insecurities in friendzoning you because they assumed you were after sex, not because you specified that. I rarely say anything about what I'm after aside from basic company but because their insecurity weighs into their conversation skills, they've made their decision known before there was any question.
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So you're saying they've already determined they'd never sleep with you before you can even be considered a friend? That happens all the time and becomes obvious really quickly. Just don't even bother with those girls and move on. Again, it's a numbers game.

And +1 to 1Shot. If it's taking a lot of work or effort on your end to get with a girl then you need to look elsewhere.
 
#103
jmattbassplaya said:
Heck, I've had a few try to do stuff while they were still with they're boyfriends :eek:
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A few weeks ago I was with some friends at the beach and I had ingested some kind of fungus. One of my female friends who I used to be very close with started going on and on about how great of a guy I am, how attractive I am and all this. It was flattering for sure. I used to have a crush on her years and years ago, but at this point in my life Im well beyond feelings for anyone. She finished up "Oh, I love you so much" spiel, I just smiled at her and said "You know, you shouldnt be telling me all of this while youre dating --------". Yeah, when she ends up single again its gonna go down.
 
#104
BurningSkies said:
I've been with the same (hot) girl for years, and quantity of quality secks is way higher than when you're rotating through.

Of course, that's contingent on finding a hot girl, and one who likes gittin' it often.
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My g/f is pretty hot, in my opinion anyway many would agree.
She was good looking enough for me to decide to settle down finally that's for sure.
I was joking as I told Maki my running around is a thing of the past.
But I most certainly will not sit here and act as though it was not a complete blast when I did : )

I will agree with you quantity of quality is much better than quantity of randomness.
There were some keepers along the way but There was also some "oh sh!t I can't believe I allowed that to happen, god I hope she looses my number" type moments.

The worst one EVER was this Mexican chick I started seeing she spoke no English at all beyond hello and some simple basic words.
I speak some Spanish but just enough to be dangerous.
Don't ask how we progressed into hooking up but we did, she was 7 years my senior absolutely gorgeous but bat sh!t crazy and while I thought we were both under the impression it was simply fun, she was busy developing feelings.
I wasn't aware because there was literally no communication going on.
I started seeing my now current g/f and decided to be exclusive (mainly because I never wanted or needed to leave the house) things were incredible at home.
None the less it started a chain of events that lasted 6 months. How do you cut things off with someone you can't speak to?
I did my best and thought it was done.
6 months of creepy stalking parking in front of my house and following me and my girlfriend around was going on.
It actually got scary for a while.

So yeah after that I said screw the dating and seeing multiple people life, there's just too much crazy out there and why chase pretty girls when I have a beautiful women at home?
 
#107
MatticusMania said:
A few weeks ago I was with some friends at the beach and I had ingested some kind of fungus. One of my female friends who I used to be very close with started going on and on about how great of a guy I am, how attractive I am and all this. It was flattering for sure. I used to have a crush on her years and years ago, but at this point in my life Im well beyond feelings for anyone. She finished up "Oh, I love you so much" spiel, I just smiled at her and said "You know, you shouldnt be telling me all of this while youre dating --------". Yeah, when she ends up single again its gonna go down.
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Perfect example as to what I'm talking about :)
 
#109
scorpionldr said:
and after doing so they either decide to keep you on a "friends list" either in their book or social network BS or they do away with you entirely. The majority of the time I see no mannerisms I'd associate with "good friend".
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It's usually pretty obvious where a woman stands on a guy. If she's wanting to actually hang out around you and wanting to do things with a group of people then awesome - you're where you need to be. If she's texting you randomly and then ignoring you when you try to contact her then you need to drop her. Fortunately, this usually becomes clear really early on.
 
#110
electracoyote said:
It's rare that I watch and even more rare that I enjoy a "date movie" or "chick flick," but this thread is starting to remind me of scenes from 500 Days Of Summer. I was really starting to hate Summer by the end of that one.

Clever ending though. I totally enjoyed that movie. Man card revoked?
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Lol
 
#111
jmattbassplaya said:
Perfect example as to what I'm talking about :)
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Im trying to remember how many times she kissed me on the cheek and told me she loved me that day. I cant remember.

She's an incredible woman, quite beautiful, intelligent, a musician, and artistic to boot. Somehow, having seen her in relationships with others I doubt the two of us would be compatible in the long run. Im sure my non-interest in her only makes her want me more. After telling me all that she asked me why I didnt respond similarly. Again, I told her "I cant tell you what I think of you while youre dating -------."
 
#112
MatticusMania said:
Im trying to remember how many times she kissed me on the cheek and told me she loved me that day. I cant remember.

She's an incredible woman, quite beautiful, intelligent, a musician, and artistic to boot. Somehow, having seen her in relationships with others I doubt the two of us would be compatible in the long run. Im sure my non-interest in her only makes her want me more. After telling me all that she asked me why I didnt respond similarly. Again, I told her "I cant tell you what I think of you while youre dating -------."
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Haha. Well played. :D
 
#113
With all these guys in this thread making such claims to such a great love life and incredibly hot girlfriends I think it's only right everyone prove their story.

No pic no hot girlfriend.
No pic and it didn't happen she was a figment of your imagination.

So to keep things fair I'll be the judge, everyone get the most provocative photo of the hottest girl you dated or currently date and PM them to me, after I get everyone's I will come back and let you know who is the biggest stud in the thread. ; {)

I think we should also show pics of our girl getting gadgets as well, Cool cars, bikes/motorcycles, whatever you think helps you get girls, but you guys can just post those publicly.
The hot girl pics should be sent to me privately only to protect their privacy: )
 
#116
1SHOT1HIT said:
With all these guys in this thread making such claims to such a great love life and incredibly hot girlfriends I think it's only right everyone prove their story.

No pic no hot girlfriend.
No pic and it didn't happen she was a figment of your imagination.
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There is plenty photographic evidence of some of the hot chicks Ive dated posted in various parts of TB.
 
#117
If you are really interested in someone find excuses to spend time with them. Ask them about themselves and if they open up be quiet and listen. That really lets someone know you are interested in them. If they ask you about yourself let them know but don't make the whole conversation about you. Then you can make a better decision if you are interested or not. If you are, don't be afraid to let them know, rejection is rough but it is always worth the risk. When I get nervous I start blabbing all about me, that is the worst thing to do. When I catch myself doing that I always fall back on the old joke. "So, enough about me. Let's talk about you. So tell me, what do you think about me?" That usually breaks it up.
I say all this but the truth is I have been very happy with the same woman for 31 years, so I haven't been trying to connect with women in romantic way in a long time. My female friends feel very safe around me and tell me about what they yearn for. Having someone who is interested in them is huge for most of the women I know.
 
#118
UncleFluffy said:
Trust me, you really don't want to look at a hi-res picture of my "girl-getting-gadget" *

* because microscopes tend to introduce annoying visual distortions
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Damn all I can do is lol and no your correct that GGG is better left under the scope for her to locate.

But thanks for your participation.
 
#119
MatticusMania said:
There is plenty photographic evidence of some of the hot chicks Ive dated posted in various parts of TB.
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I've seen one, and honestly I can't even remember if that was your pic or someone else but yes she was cute.

Keep in mind I was joking though. Nobody needs to show pics of their gf's

Or maybe I was just looking for an excuse to post mine? -((((=="",=(0_0)=,""==))))-
 

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