We aren't together anymore, she broke up with me a long time ago. I basically told her that if she continued with her current lifestyle over the summer, everything would fall apart for her. Low and behold, EVERY night she's called me and complained about her current situation. Now, she's found that lesbian chick and she says she just wants to see where it leads. So I basically have nothing to break off, but we still talk. I'm just confused as to whether that's even worth it.
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Hi, nathan
Relax, she's just doing what the women are best at, messing with our heads. Some do it with style and grace and get whatever they're after. Your ex is IMHO not one of those intellegent ones.
There's a lot of "good ones" around, explore a little. It's worth it.
Just my 0.02
Sam
Relax, she's just doing what the women are best at, messing with our heads. Some do it with style and grace and get whatever they're after. Your ex is IMHO not one of those intellegent ones.
There's a lot of "good ones" around, explore a little. It's worth it.
Just my 0.02
Sam
Yeah man, cut the contact. She's using you. Calling you up and complaining to you is not her right. She broke up with you, she doesn't get the privilege of dumping all her emotional crap on you while she looks for someone else.
It's not. You'll only end up more hurt later on if you continue to allow her to dump on you. Cut the contact. Now.
It's not. You'll only end up more hurt later on if you continue to allow her to dump on you. Cut the contact. Now.
Cut this slapper right out of your life. She is obviously a state and you don't need none of that! If she is getting into this whole trendy gay thing it shows that she is impossibly sad.
You're better off out of it.
You're better off out of it.
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Dude... dude...
Read "the Game" by Neil Strauss. This girl is not special, there are other women out there, better ones too. F**k 10 other ones and see if she still seems so special.
Stop talking to her because she obviously doesn't care about you. Hell, if you do she may even want you more (i guarantee it actually).
Yeah you guys are right. It's just hard, because she's the first person I've been in a really serious relationship with. She didn't act like this in the relationship. It's hard for me to go from loving somebody for 10 months to cutting them out of my life, but it sounds like it's for the best.
Also, I'm terrible at approaching women haha, so it would be hard for me to "f*ck 10 others". I play the mysterious side, haha.
Also, I'm terrible at approaching women haha, so it would be hard for me to "f*ck 10 others". I play the mysterious side, haha.
you'll find a lot of things in life that you do won't be easy, but dropping this chick is obviously the right move and it's even better that you realize that 
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Dude, she is just a stupid hoe.
There are tons of stupid hoes to choose from.
Hoes come in all shapes and sizes.
10 months really is nothing. Don't even talk to that slut anymore, bro. I can't believe you even talked to her after she pulled that stunt.
As ice cube said....
"If your b**ch gets out of line, set her on fire."
There are tons of stupid hoes to choose from.
Hoes come in all shapes and sizes.
10 months really is nothing. Don't even talk to that slut anymore, bro. I can't believe you even talked to her after she pulled that stunt.
As ice cube said....
"If your b**ch gets out of line, set her on fire."
Could be the end of thread if you guys want it. Thanks for the replies, but I'm always always looking for advice from ANYBODY on this situation so if you want to still reply to this that would be great. Otherwise, thanks. It's a really tough decision for me to make and I really don't deserve this to be happening to me after how I treated her. Things happen i guess.
She's seeking attention, and as long as you'll give it to her, she'll keep doing crazy things because at the end of the day you're still talking to her on the phone. I've been in a somewhat similar situation before, and the best thing you can do is stop paying attention to her. Don't call her, don't answer her calls, don't comment her myspace, etc......if it was really meant to be, she'll eventually come around. But it won't be anytime soon. Patience my man.
Seriously, this book "The Game" is about a man who goes from barely being able to get a date, to being the best pick-up artist in (pretty-much) the world. It can really teach you a lot about human interaction and how to get better at it.
P.S. I'm not really a person that goes out on a night to find some bimbo to screw. Maybe I should, but thats not the point. Its more a testament to confidence and being the best person that you are. Don't let some fear of a talking to a woman you want to talk to stop you from talking to her. Ya know?
P.S.S My first relationship was for about 10 months (1 year actually) before she broke it off, my second was with the same girl for about 8 months before she broke it off, my third... the same for about 5 months before I broke it off. I had wasted 3 years on this girl, some great times sure, but what a freaking waste. And I'm sure we all have one of these tales of woe, the trick is to move on and enjoy life. You're young, fertile, eager, strong and full of life; use that energy!
P.S. I'm not really a person that goes out on a night to find some bimbo to screw. Maybe I should, but thats not the point. Its more a testament to confidence and being the best person that you are. Don't let some fear of a talking to a woman you want to talk to stop you from talking to her. Ya know?
P.S.S My first relationship was for about 10 months (1 year actually) before she broke it off, my second was with the same girl for about 8 months before she broke it off, my third... the same for about 5 months before I broke it off. I had wasted 3 years on this girl, some great times sure, but what a freaking waste. And I'm sure we all have one of these tales of woe, the trick is to move on and enjoy life. You're young, fertile, eager, strong and full of life; use that energy!
I had something very similar a couple of years ago. If you have her back or keep letting her be in charge then she won't change and this will just get worse. In my case I met someone else soon after telling her I couldn't put up with it any more. I actually live in the same town as her now and we get along great - no regrets either.
