I haven't really been active on the forum for a while - with finishing school, starting and leaving my own company, and having a daughter, I haven't had a lot of time to post over the past 2 years or so. But now it seems life has hit a humourous stage. About a year ago our singer left for CA. It was something I knew was coming but apparently it took the band I was in by surprise. Which, in fact, is no surprise considering half the group was too stoned to realize what the guy was saying when he said "I'm moving to California in 6 months." Anyways, the other guys got all bent out of shape (don't do drugs kids) about the situation and our search for a new singer was fruitless - so I've been bandless for about a year now. But I digress. So I've been answering these ads on Craigslist.com. The first group I played with was, supposedly, and Indie/Punk/Garage band. Cool. I dig. I showed up a half hour ealry to do a quick setup and to shoot the shizzle (blech) with the drummer (who put the ad out) before the guitarist showed up. The drummer seemed cool. The guitarist showed up late and forgot his chord. Woot. So we shot the shiznit a little longer. Once we finally started jamming the whole Indie/Punk/Garage thing breaks down to 12 bar blues and Pearl Jam. Now I like Pearl Jam. I know alot of their songs. But I was 15 when I learned them. Not something I want to do now. So that sets the stage for my month long endeavor (so far) to find a decent group. I've done this before - trying out instrumentalists one at a time - but now that I'm a husband, father, and I've finally got a full-time job I can excel at (and "move up in the world" ) it's been...uhhh....interesting. The band I jammed with tonight is cool - the've got a 90's "alternative" thing going on and they want me to come back next week. I figure I'll do it since their the only group that sent me songs (I tried to learn 8 songs in an hour - while my daughter was napping yesterday. Ween and Wilco mostly. I spent most of my time on the Rancid song even though I already knew it ) and are somewhat organized. So maybe that's my beef? I've tried out for 6 or 7 bands over the last month and only one of them has any sense of organization. And another so: I 'm sorry to rant here. Since Em was born I've basically been left to the wind. Letting it direct me - since most of my friends have organized me into a different league. The "parent" one. heh...I can't wait until their in my position. Short sightied #$%^&*@M!. But I still think the best role model, to my daughter, I can be is one who lives his passions. So I play on. As long as I don't have to go on tour or work weekends. And the little girl cries, appropriately. And I go - father comes to save the day. I love it. But please help me find a band. Thanks.