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Adventures in auditions, jealous GF edition.

rutrho

rutrho

Mar 29, 2014
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So, I've been looking for a new band for a while now and its been a pretty frustrating fruitless endeavor for the most part as I'm looking for doing originals and in metal or even down to more chill stuff like hard rock or indie stuff. To say it tends to be male dominated is an understatement, Needless to say, lots of boys club type vibes from groups in this genre, this one takes the cake though from my recent experiences.

FTR this is a pretty huge bullet dodged in my book, if some dude is being this weird, well, about his gf or whatever then I'm pretty glad to not have to deal with that mess.
Meanwhile I'm going back to the search for non jerk band mates, wheeee. Luckily my wife has ZERO issues with me playing with random guys. LOLOL


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Been playing for decades. The last 2 decades the most successful bands I've been in have had at least one female player.
Female fronted bands by talented vocalists that can attract and hold the attention of an audience, sometimes spellbound are the best paying shows.
Besides getting paid to play by the venue, we regularly find lots of $20's and a couple times a month $100 bills in the the tip jar.
People tend to get up and dance sooner and longer with Female fronted bands.

This may only apply to cover bands, which we are but we get the same reception whether it's an intimate eatery/bar or a rowdy Biker bar.
 
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dtripoli said:
Female fronted bands by talented vocalists that can attract and hold the attention of an audience, sometimes spellbound are the best paying shows. (...) People tend to get up and dance sooner and longer with Female fronted bands.
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How does this apply to the thread? OP auditioned for the bass position not the lead singing position.
 
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rutrho said:
There are a ton of what if's i could have responded with but decided to just let em be, and I moved on. I've seen the attraction argument come up before and its always a damn frustrating thing because its BS.
Bleh.
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if that’s you in your avatar, then all the straight members of the band were attracted to you. Which is completely fine if everyone is professional (and a plus for stage presence!), and a HUGE mess if any single member acts like a horny middle-schooler.

As frustrating as it is—do you need the drama in your life?
 
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