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Adventures in auditions, jealous GF edition.

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by rutrho, Dec 6, 2019.

  1. rutrho


    Mar 29, 2014
    San Jose, CA
    So, I've been looking for a new band for a while now and its been a pretty frustrating fruitless endeavor for the most part as I'm looking for doing originals and in metal or even down to more chill stuff like hard rock or indie stuff. To say it tends to be male dominated is an understatement, Needless to say, lots of boys club type vibes from groups in this genre, this one takes the cake though from my recent experiences.

    FTR this is a pretty huge bullet dodged in my book, if some dude is being this weird, well, about his gf or whatever then I'm pretty glad to not have to deal with that mess.
    Meanwhile I'm going back to the search for non jerk band mates, wheeee. Luckily my wife has ZERO issues with me playing with random guys. LOLOL

  2. marqueemoon


    Oct 8, 2019
    You should have responded to the text with that. :)
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  3. JD is attracted to you, & he knows his wife will find out.
  4. rutrho


    Mar 29, 2014
    San Jose, CA
    There are a ton of what if's i could have responded with but decided to just let em be, and I moved on. I've seen the attraction argument come up before and its always a damn frustrating thing because its BS.
  5. Been playing for decades. The last 2 decades the most successful bands I've been in have had at least one female player.
    Female fronted bands by talented vocalists that can attract and hold the attention of an audience, sometimes spellbound are the best paying shows.
    Besides getting paid to play by the venue, we regularly find lots of $20's and a couple times a month $100 bills in the the tip jar.
    People tend to get up and dance sooner and longer with Female fronted bands.

    This may only apply to cover bands, which we are but we get the same reception whether it's an intimate eatery/bar or a rowdy Biker bar.
    Last edited: Dec 7, 2019
  6. marqueemoon


    Oct 8, 2019
    Yep. No sense trying to change the minds of irrational people.
  7. It’s crap, but the best thing to do for YOU (and you already know this) is to just cross them off and move on. Clearly they are very insecure and small minded. Now go find something better.
  8. How does this apply to the thread? OP auditioned for the bass position not the lead singing position.
    Last edited: Dec 7, 2019
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  9. JRA

    JRA my words = opinion Supporting Member

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  10. hrodbert696

    hrodbert696 Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    That sucks, but yeah, you probably just got spared a lot of drama.
    The Owl, Mr_Moo, Spidey2112 and 7 others like this.
  11. wagdog


    Mar 20, 2000
    Der Waffle Haus
    Maybe it’s time to start your own band.
    The Owl, mikewalker, Artman and 13 others like this.
  12. 40Hz

    40Hz Supporting Member

    Beat me to it. :thumbsup:

    Smartest way to become a member of the most exclusive club in town is to be the club’s founder.
  13. 40Hz

    40Hz Supporting Member

    I think you just won the prize for the biggest understatement of 2019 with that one. :thumbsup:
  14. mc900ftj

    mc900ftj Supporting Member

    Jan 21, 2014
    ^^^ This.
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  15. db59

    db59 Supporting Member

    Apr 16, 2015
    Fire the girlfriend
  16. buldog5151bass

    buldog5151bass Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.

    Oct 22, 2003
    And here you thought you had already graduated from middle school...
  17. BassUrges


    Mar 14, 2016
    if that’s you in your avatar, then all the straight members of the band were attracted to you. Which is completely fine if everyone is professional (and a plus for stage presence!), and a HUGE mess if any single member acts like a horny middle-schooler.

    As frustrating as it is—do you need the drama in your life?
  18. Old Blastard

    Old Blastard

    Aug 18, 2013
    Life is just middle school playing out over and over and over again.
  19. buldog5151bass

    buldog5151bass Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.

    Oct 22, 2003
    How OP looks is irrelevant. Adults can function like adults.
  20. BassUrges


    Mar 14, 2016
    What evidence do we have that this band can function like adults?

    There are a lot of toddlers over 18 running around out there.
    Heavy Blue, Mr_Moo, DrMole and 8 others like this.

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