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Adventures in Whatever

mellowinman

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Oct 19, 2011
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So there's this town in Indiana. Martinsville. The racial makeup of the city is 97.5% White, 0.2% African American, 0.3% Native American, 0.4% Asian, 0.1% Pacific Islander, 0.5% from other races, and 1.0% from two or more races. Hispanic or Latino of any race are 1.3% of the population. (that comes right from Wikipedia) You can usually hear "Dueling Banjos" playing as you approach the town.

My wife had a daughter with a guy who lives there, about thirty something years ago. That daughter has had her share of issues, and the guy and his wife have taken her in lately. Let's call them Rick and Dee. Dee called my wife, and told her some stuff about this daughter, and my wife was concerned. She wanted to go down to Martinsville, and see if we could find her, and try and help.

Now, I don't like to go to Martinsville, because nothing good ever happens when we go down there. It's a sundown town, and for me, a scary place. We were also going to a nearby town to have lunch with my wife's daughter's daughter, our granddaughter, who now lives with her dad, and his wife, and has nothing to do with my wife's daughter. She is being raised right, and has a good, stable life.

I'm not going to tell you the whole sordid tale. Just a few highlights.

  • Dee is concerned about my wife's daughter's drug use
  • My wife has always liked Dee
  • Dee is no longer Dee, and Rick is no longer Rick (not that being Rick was all that great a thing to begin with)
  • Dee and Rick are severe METH HEADS, with only a handful of teeth between them, who talk like some crazy old man you met up with in an Alabama back alley after being drunk on Sterno for thirty years or so
  • We didn't get to talk to my wife's daughter, and we did a good bit of looking for her
  • We didn't get to see our other granddaughter, who is currently in the custody of a woman who isn't much better than Rick or Dee
  • I burned out the clutch in my Mitsubishi, and we got stranded on the side of Highway 37, at 3:00 in the afternoon
  • By the time I convinced my cell carrier I had not, in fact canceled my roadside assistance; had them get a tow truck out; found a way to the airport in Indianapolis to get a rental car and get ourselves home, it was midnight
  • We watched the sun go down while waiting for a tow
  • I'm probably out about $500.00 over this whole thing
  • We have no idea how bad off my wife's daughter is, or if we can help her
  • We are presently out of contact with Granddaughter #2 still
I could go on and on. One amazing thing is, an Indiana State Trooper showed up, at the request of my wife's mother, right when we were starting to hook my car up to the tow. My wife told me she was going to ask him if he would give her a ride to the airport. I told her Indiana State Troopers don't taxi people to the airport, and she went over to talk to him, and came back, and told me he said he would, but she's heard sometimes cops rape and kill women.

I didn't think it was very likely an Indiana State Trooper who we know was dispatched to the scene, and had three witnesses watch my wife get into his car was probably planning a rape and murder, so I went with the tow people, and she went with the officer. She asked him his name, and he said, "Trooper Johnson," and she said, 'well I'm bus driver Neuenschwander." (she's a school bus driver, and didn't take my last name, because it was too hard to spell.) I told her she should have said "my name is Lady-Who-Doesn't-Want-to-be-Raped-and-Killed-by-a-Trooper Neuenschwander, and then how we laughed!"

Anyway, it was such a horrible day, and I'll be paying for it for God knows how long, and I'll have to drive back down there to get my car, and we'll probably still have to follow up on the daughter and Granddaughter #2, and I could whine, and cry about it all day, except for the following:

  • Nobody died
  • Nobody was seriously injured
  • I'm home now
  • and then the one really big important thing that makes it all worth it
Now my wife thinks she looks horrible in this photo. She had cried off her makeup, and you can tell that yes, she is older than 25 by a couple of years, and she's out in the glare of harsh sunlight, but she sure looks beautiful to me, and the reason she's crying is because she is getting to see the young lady that means more to her than just about anybody in the world, who is 15, and can't believe her grandma is picking her up like this. (and probably just a little embarrassed about it, too)

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So welcome to real life, folks. That young lady is the spitting image of my wife, and she's in a good, solid home, and the worst grade she got on her last report card was a B. And I may be an ass, and I may be a jerk, and I may be less than perfect in about a million ways, but I will gladly pay $500.00 or more, even with my measly income, to see my wife have a moment that means that much to her.
 
Glad it turned out okay. I hope everything continues to go well for the granddaughter.

Martinsville has had a rough reputation for years, at least as far back as when my dad was growing up, and that was a long time ago. I grew up in French Lick/West Baden, and meth is a big problem around that area as well. The meth trade resulted in the murder of my brother in laws's brother this past summer. It is bad business. I'm sure you know all that and more.

Continued good wishes for your wife, you, and your entire family!
 
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Glad it turned out okay. I hope everything continues to go well for the granddaughter.

Martinsville has had a rough reputation for years, at least as far back as when my dad was growing up, and that was a long time ago. I grew up in French Lick/West Baden, and meth is a big problem around that area as well. The meth trade resulted in the murder of my brother in laws's brother this past summer. It is bad business. I'm sure you know all that and more.

Continued good wishes for your wife, you, and your entire family!

I come from Minneapolis. For most of my late twenties/early thirties, I lived on the South Side, and hung out near Lake Street, and where all my suburban friends considered it really DANGEROUS. I lived in Denver for awhile, and saw some pretty rough neighborhoods. I've seen places where every business is boarded up; graffiti is everywhere, and you heard gunshots a block or so away, and then sirens.

I've driven cab. I've played dive bars. I think of myself as a person who has seen the scary side of life quite a bit.

But I have NEVER seen anything like Martinsville. That town gives me the heeby jeebies like nothing else. I'm just glad at least one little girl managed to get out of there. I thank her daddy every time I see him for the great job he's doing of keeping her safe, and keeping her focused. Mostly, just for keeping her in my wife's life, because she already feels like she lost a daughter, and that particular young lady is all she's got left, other than me.

And I'm OK, but I ain't all that much.