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Advice Please?

WowSuchPunx

WowSuchPunx

Feb 17, 2014
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#1
Hey everyone, I need some advice. The backup guitar player in my band is just so atrociously terrible, like seriously, its bad. He can't even play a power chord. He takes no time to practice ever and just wants to show off to girls that he's in a band. He's a really close friend and I don't want to kick him out. Can someone please tell me what to do. I'm really conflicted.
 
#2
If he sucks, kick him out. It's either that or let him embarrass the band as a whole. He'll probably take it personal. All you can do is assure him that it's not and spell out the reasons he has to go. He'll either be an adult about it (understand and learn from it) or he won't. That's not really your problem.

(Yes. I've done this very thing. I've also had it done to me.)
 
#3
You need more musically serious friends. No posers. No pretend guitar playing.
Record your practice and let him hear for himself just how bad he is. He will:

a) Get serious about his playing
b) Get embarrassed enough to quit on his own

If this wont work you must rid him from the band
 
#4
When I answered an add to join a band I didn't know how to play. I learned the bass from the Guitar player. But I also practice alot. If you want to spend the time to help him play and if you think he has got it in him to achieve it, then do so. have long intense practices just to two of you. make him work. If there is no constant improvement then out he goes.
 
#7
tangentmusic said:
You need more musically serious friends. No posers. No pretend guitar playing.
Record your practice and let him hear for himself just how bad he is. He will:

a) Get serious about his playing
b) Get embarrassed enough to quit on his own

If this wont work you must rid him from the band
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I completely agree, our lead guitar player is phenomenal. And, not to pat myself on the back, am I pretty good bass player. We've done recordings of practice and he seems to not even notice his inability to play. I don't want to get rid of him, but I'm afraid I might have to.
 
#8
We just fired one of our guitarists and it wasn't easy. He's a great guy, but the reality was he wasn't helping. We played gig without him and it was tighter than with him. In the end, we just had to decide if it was worth paying him to add nothing to the band. You might want to record yourselves and play it back. If he's really that bad and he's a friend, he'll do the right thing and quit.
 

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