After reading all the posts and replies, these are the things I picked up on:
1. Your bandmates like your playing and tone regardless what you bring to play. That's good. I can't stand to be around gear snobs.
2. You really like that Sadowsky and your wife doesn't mind you making the investment in quality.
3. Playing a well made instrument, even a less expensive one, doesn't bother you in the least. You're not a gear snob and enjoy great tone regardless of the price.
And so.....you are not quite sure what to do.
Well there are two different ways to look at the situation. If you are only wanting it to use at church and the occasional Jazz gig, then perhaps buying the less expensive bass would work for these reasons:
A. The less expensive bass you could leave at church and only take it out as needed. If it were stolen, you wouldn't be in a world of hurt like if it were a more expensive bass (even though no one likes any bass stolen). It would also not be as much a strain on the budget either.
B. You would REALLY like the 5 string Sadowsky the most, but are trying to justify the less expensive bass due to the price and guilt of coming off as a gear snob.
My conclusion: First, I commend you for being wise in your finances. You are also not a "gear snob", but you like having nice things. I feel that if you do buy the less expensive bass it will do fine. Your bandmates won't mind, your wife won't mind, and everyone will be happy with your purchase.
Except you.
The Sadowsky is what you should get. There will always be that little voice in the back of your head saying to you ""I still wish I had the Sadowsky". And... in the end, you will wind up getting it anyway. You (and your wife) will be aggravated you didn't get it in the first place and spent the extra 4 or 5 hundred for the other bass you wish you didn't have.
If you still feel guilty after purchasing the said Sadowsky, then you could sell one of your Laklands to us at a greatly reduced price (say 1/3 what you gave for it) to help relieve your guilt.
As with any decision......pray about it first.
Doug