I suggest you download the manual. It's pretty straight forward.
http://www.talkbass.com/forum/f15/fearful-part-ten-10-a-747868/index20.html#post10691320
Have you tried bi-amping your current setup? With one 8 ohm cab per side, you'll get 170watts to each side. With the cross over, the 2x10 should give you a decent mid-range and possibly give you the "cut through volume" you need. Try 800hz cross over to start. Use the Balance to....well, balance the cabs.
If the drummer needs a bass monitor, you can try the
Effects out to 30-50 watt combo(1x12?)(guitar or bass), turn the bass e.q. way down and he'll be fine. Just get it tilted back or at ear level. Or maybe run the Effects out to a head phone amplifier/ear buds? Alternatively, you can possibly set up closer to the drummer and turn your amp a bit towards him or set your amp back a bit.
The manual had an interesting comment about the dual pre-amp feature:
Note that when both Pre-Amp knobs are used at equal settings, the amplifier will be twice as loud as when only one is used. Be sure you have them set at "equal".
Also be sure the speakers are in "phase".
Maybe you can get enough volume with this setup.
Alternatively, I suggest that you check out fEARful's 15/6 cab. Here's a review:
http://www.talkbass.com/forum/f15/fearful-part-ten-10-a-747868/index20.html#post10691320
Since you can bi-amp, you won't need to have a cross-over. You'll probably need only one cab to get the job done.
Most likely, instead of adding a 4x10 to your current cabs, you'll be able to sell you other cabs to help fund the purchase of a the 15/6. There a new, lightweight (32 lbs or so) that's become available. Check out:
Link Removed. or you can have one built or build your own for a lot less. Based on the current reviews, no regrets.
Otherwise, running your rig with two 8ohm cabs from one amp and a 4 ohm cab from the other amp, if you used the 2x10 as a drummer's monitor and stack the 1x15/4x10 for your bass, the 4x10 will be move more air and have more watss than the 1x15 and be much louder possibly making the 1x15 almost useless. If you use the Balance control to straighten things out, the 2x10 maybe too loud for the drummer and the 1x15 may start to distort in trying to keep up with the 4x10.
You'll also have 3 different cabs with different speaker arrangements on stage and that is not the best way to get good tone, especially from different manufacturers.