Are you too proud to apologize?

[Killed_by_Death]

I was reading Slash's (Saul Hudson's) autobiography today, and his first issue with Axl was that he wouldn't apologize to his (Saul's) grandmother for telling her to sod off. Axl actually dove out of Saul's vehicle at 45 mph & immediately stopped crashing on Saul's couch, just to avoid apologizing to a little old lady.
I could almost understand if it were some behemoth of a man he was fearing, but not a little old lady.

I had an incident yesterday where someone mistook something for a backhanded compliment, when it wasn't intended as such.

Instead of apologizing for the misunderstanding, insults & name-calling ensued.

I don't have time for people who can't apologize.
Some people say it's a good measure of a man, not his mistakes, but his ability to realize those mistakes and take responsibility for them.

 

[elgecko]

 

[Killed_by_Death]

 

[bholder]

I'm sorry, but any apology that begins with "I'm sorry, but", including this one, isn't really an apology at all.


...I just wish I'd thought of that one in time to use it in the moment, not years later...

 

[Killed_by_Death]

Yeah, the "with all due respect" precursor usually means they're about to insult you, too.

 

[fhm555]

I am a firm believer in avoiding stress; that mind/body conflict where your mind won't let your body stomp a mudhole in some A-hole who so desperatly needs it.

While i've unloaded on people in the past it's usually richly deserved and is the end result of them continuing to push when they mistook lack of a negative or agressive response as license to push harder or just outright try to screw me. If it's a stranger i always assume it's unintended until they demonstrate otherwise, then it's on like donkey king.

I'm a fan of the "all due respect" lead in.

 

[48thStreetCustom]

I'm not too proud to apologize, but looking back, I've apologized to people who didn't respect deserve the apology.

One thing I've learned with age is that when someone tells you "I'm sorry you feel that way," that's not an apology for their actions.

 

[ONYX]

It takes a "real man" to admit his mistakes and apologize.

That being said, I have apologized many times for things I've said or done--no problem--not proud at all.

I'm a believer in Karma--I don't like to go to sleep at night thinking that I've done somebody wrong.

 

[Killed_by_Death]

I lived in a small community abroad & there were only a dozen to 20 expats (Westerners) around at any given time.
In that environment, when you foul up, you had better be ready to own up & make it right, or everyone in town will turn their back on you.

 

[DreadyDiggs]

I do not apologize if I do not mean it. If I am genuinely sorry I will apologize.

I doubt I could ever be famous, cause it seems like if you say something the masses don't agree with you gotta hold a press conference and fake apologize, lest you be vilified.

 

[Joe Nerve]

I have no problem apologizing. Pride is something that rarely gets in my way. I'm one of those people who'd rather be happy, than right also.

 

[capnsandwich]

Hey, we're human and that means we'll make mistakes which, in turn, means we might just need to repent to one another fro time to time. I'm not too proud to say it but there are times when my anger hinders me from doing it right away. Is that pride? I don't know but I usually end up apologizing at the end of it all.

 

[5544]

I have a real hard time believing that Axl jumped out of a moving car doing 45 mph.

 

[Hues]

One of my favorite shows is N.C.I.S....Over the years,main character Gibbs has often repeated his credo 'Never apologize' or 'Never say you're sorry. It's a sign of weakness.'

I always think not owning up to your mistake is proof of weakness.

 

[DaDrew2112]

Yeah, the "with all due respect" precursor usually means they're about to insult you, too.

 

[Naderage]

Growing up I never did. I was a brat, never cared. Now a few years older, a bit more humble, I've learned to recognize when I did something wrong, and apologize.

The weirdest part is that people really don't know how to act when people apologize, because it's not really a common thing anymore. Just like saying please and thank you out at restaurants, servers tend to get dumbfounded.

 

[hrodbert696]

I'm sorry that you're such a jerk you can't take a joke.

 

[yodedude2]

I was reading Slash's (Saul Hudson's) autobiography today, and his first issue with Axl was that he wouldn't apologize to his (Saul's) grandmother for telling her to sod off. Axl actually dove out of Saul's vehicle at 45 mph & immediately stopped crashing on Saul's couch, just to avoid apologizing to a little old lady.
I could almost understand if it were some behemoth of a man he was fearing, but not a little old lady.

reading that, i do not see a fear of apologizing; rather, i see a power struggle between the two males.

 

[2saddleslab]

One of the greatest lessons I learned from my dad was to apologize when your're wrong. He lead by example, still does.

 

[Eilif]

I've put my foot in my mouth more than a few times and perhaps my only redeeming action during those incidents was willingness to apologize.
I try to be the first to apologize even if the other person doesn't recognize their culpability in the conflict. Apologizing is not only something you do for others, it is just as much something you do for yourself and because it's the right thing to do. You can't control other's behavior, only your own.

Also, as regards close relationships that whole "Love means never having to say your sorry" thing is total dookie and a fast-track to broken relationships. Love means saying your sorry alot.