The best course of action for a fella in this predicament is to run to the hills.
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Asking her father
- Thread starter MAJOR METAL
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The best course of action for a fella in this predicament is to run to the hills.
Absolutely.
And chances are if you're not a total $#!t head dad isn't going to have a problem with you.
My ex wife's father absolutely hated me, he told me no, I discussed it with him, discussed it with her, and he changed his mind.
My wife's father has Behcets Syndrome which caused him to have a stroke he has the mentality of a 5 year old. I asked him anyway OUT OF RESPECT, then I asked her mother. she said yes.
guess your hypothetical isn't so hypothetical.
Listen, I get it, you guys are such A-holes you know they're going to say no so you look to circumvent the situation by making excuses or trying to claim you're some kind of champion for women's rights (ie they aren't property)
you're marrying into this family, suck it up nancy boy.
Yes, but her Dad also knows when you have trouble with her HE will be asked to help with the repairs.
A marriage involves two people. No hanger-ons necessary. It is disrespectful to the woman because it evolved directly from when they were treated like property.
The first part of this post does in no way answer my question, but by all means, please keep telling Your self it does.
The second part is just plain rude and... Wait, what's the word I'm looking for..? Oh Yeah, that's right; "disrespectful". Remember to never do business with yourself.
And as I have stated earlier, in my country there is no tradition for asking the father/parent for their "daughters hand" in marriage. Does that mean we're all disrespectful excuse making a-holes?
Funny, this is the most disrespectful thing in this thread.
you asked what i would do, i told you exactly what i did. how in the world does that not answer your question? you're just being ornery for the sake of being ornery.
Funny, this is the most disrespectful thing in this thread.
sounds to me like I hit a little too close to home.
So what if daddy is a raging psycho alcoholic who routinely beats his wife and kids? I think we're forgetting that in many cases the father isn't worthy of respect to begin with.
In this more enlightened time we just consider the overall investment of time, money and love we have put in. Seems a real waste to fritter all that away along with possibilities of perpetuating our DNA in an unpleasant combination with @zzhole DNA.
Families are nosy, people are nosy -BFD.
so now we're gonna throw out any off the wall hypothetical we can think of. I might be crab people you don't know.
indefensible position, switch gears to being inflammatory.
Let me follow up with this then: What if Your ex wife's father had not changed his mind?
You are the one who came in here guns blazing calling everyone who disagrees with your ancient patriarchal worldview ********. "Respect" L.M.F.A.O.
When I asked my wife to marry me, well, it was about 20 years ago now, I didn't ask her father's permission. I'm not sure why, I guess maybe because I didn't like him much and he didn't like me a lot. I don't think I really thought a lot about it. It wouldn't have changed my wife's answer either way, even though we were 21 and 20, respectively. In retrospect, it probably would have been the classier thing to do. I don't think it was any surprise to anyone, though, since we had been dating since I was 17 and she was 16. But if I had it to do over again I would have taken the time to make my intentions known officially. But I was a little more arrogant back then.
