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Band break up. That sucks!!

vernhillbass

vernhillbass

May 11, 2012
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Missouri
#1
The classic rock cover band I've been in for 4 years is breaking up after our gigs in June. One of our leads just isn't enjoying it and feels too old ( I get that) and our singer is going to do a small 3 piece acoustic thing more suited for smaller venues (get that too). It's been a blast and I'm not mad, it just sucks when you are part of a great band of cool and supportive guys and it just ends. Best thing was it all happened via a text chain started by our drummer. Gotta love technology.
 
#3
I'm right there with ya. My band of almost 2 years is about to go through a reformation period as our drummer recently got asked to go on tour with a pretty big group that travels across the country. It's actually pretty exciting for all of us.
 
#5
Sorry to hear but a 3pc acoustic thing is a lot of fun with easy transport and load ins.
BTW: From my experience with this same scenario, A bass makes all the difference in a small acoustic group, you can work with a small rig, Plus the gig opportunities are much more plentiful.
 
#6
vernhillbass said:
The classic rock cover band I've been in for 4 years is breaking up after our gigs in June. One of our leads just isn't enjoying it and feels too old ( I get that) and our singer is going to do a small 3 piece acoustic thing more suited for smaller venues (get that too). It's been a blast and I'm not mad, it just sucks when you are part of a great band of cool and supportive guys and it just ends. Best thing was it all happened via a text chain started by our drummer. Gotta love technology.
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4 years is a great run.

Pick your next band wisely. Don't settle

Blue
 
#7
jmattbassplaya said:
I'm right there with ya. My band of almost 2 years is about to go through a reformation period as our drummer recently got asked to go on tour with a pretty big group that travels across the country. It's actually pretty exciting for all of us.
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Dude, I was in a great band that scored an opening slot for a bigger name band and they wound up cherry picking our drummer for a big touring opportunity. I was happy for his success, but devastated by the death of the band. Oh well, 10 years later...
 
#8
Sorry to hear it.

If my band broke up and they all do at some point. I'm going to be bandless for a long time.

Finding a band with consistant paying gigs with good honest fair people is hard to find.

blue
 
#15
Use this as an opportunity to expand what you do, or your perception of yourself as a musician. Maybe it's time to investigate another genre or maybe even check into the theater circuit.

You can now reinvent yourself with as the founder of a new band in a different style that you've always wanted to play, or a "better" version of what you have been doing.

You can always still get together with these people on other projects besides what you've been doing.

Enjoy the new found freedom.
 
#16
My old band gigged for 9 years. The drummer moved out of state and hard as we tried we couldn't replace him. We're all currently playing in different bands and gigging regularly. I'm having fun, but there's serious chemistry when you're together for that long and it just can't be replaced. Funny thing is, my new band isn't nearly as good as the old one, but I'm making more than my previous band did as a whole. I miss them, but life goes on...
 
#18
I feel like my old college band broke up because I decided to get a "real job".
Hard to pass up a steady paycheck instead of moving across the state to a questionable future.

But man, I miss playing with those guys. Tons of talent and really nice folks. Might be time to call in the troops for a reunion gig!
 
#19
We are parting on great terms and that is awesome. The drummer and I are going to collaborate after the band ends, so I have that to look forward to. We have had several very talented guitarists fill in from time to time and have reached out to them. I am busy with a couple other projects so I will still be playing every weekend. This was one of those bands where things were stress free and we all got along. That doesn't happen very often. The music scene around St. Louis seems to be filled with prima donna's and ego-maniacs. I just want to share the joy with people and make some great music.
 
#20
I left a band in January after 8 years and it broke up completely the next week. Probably cuz I was the whip-cracker/cheerleader for the whole time and no one else wanted to do it. It was seven and a half awesome years of fun, good music, and friendship, and six months of fist fights and frustration. But life goes on. We're still friends and a couple of us are jamming occasionally.

But as sad as it was, since January I have had a blast concentrating on bass, doing fill-in for all sorts of bands. Loads of fun. Something else always comes up and it will be just as rewarding.
 

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