I want to thank the OP for starting this thread. I know some of you lack patience with those of us who consider the bar band scene a grind, but this thread has really helped me to crystallize my own feelings on this subject. It's something I've been grappling with recently because I quit a good band last year after deciding I'm not cut out for 4 hour gigs that get me home at 2 am. It was a blues trio and we were getting $100 a night a piece so it wasn't an easy decision. Since then I've just been laying low, doing a lot of writing and composing music on my computer.
But of course I'm getting the itch to perform again. Like some of you I have a good day job (I work in IT) so money is not my primary consideration. I woke up this morning knowing exactly what I want to do. I'm looking for a duo/trio type situation playing blues, light jazz, and maybe some classic rock covers. Venues would be coffee houses, restaurants, wine bars, happy hours, private parties, farmer's markets and whatever else comes our way. I think if I find the right partner(s) we can still make a few bucks and have a good time doing it. That's the hope anyway.
So thanks guys, I love TB, but this particular thread has been very helpful to me the past couple of days. Good luck out there!
Tony