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Hello! I finally made the leap and bought my first bass about 5 months ago. I started taking lessons shortly after I got it. I'm 47 years old and I've never played an instrument in my life but I've always wanted to play bass. I love a good groove. The pluses are that I'm in love with the sound and the instrument and I have great timing. The minuses are a longer list. My fingers just don't want to stretch, my fingers don't always want to behave the way that I want them to and learning to mute unused strings has me frustrated beyond belief. I had a great jam session with my instructor and another student last week but the more I progress, the more I realize how much I still have to learn and work on. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm like a dog chasing my tail at this point. I'm questioning everything that I do and my biggest fear is that my fingers just won't ever stay down or spread out. It's laughable but it's also far from funny currently. I'm hoping to hear that this is normal because the negative voices in my head are really filling me with a doubt that I'm too old and I'll never improve. Help...
Thank you for your comments. I feel like at 5 months that I should be concert ready... which is sooo unrealistic I know. But I still feel like I'm failing by not catching on faster.![]()
Thin Lizzy - Dancing in the Moonlight
I would ignore advice about swapping to a short-scale instrument. Never EVER think that gear can make you a better player. It can make you sound better, yes, and occasionally - very rarely - it will make it easier to apply what you've already learned, but it won't make you a better player.

I’m 49, and have been playing for 37 of those years and am frustrated still by the same things. Practice is the only cure. You’ll get better the more you do it, but there’s always more to learn, and always room for improvement.Hello! I finally made the leap and bought my first bass about 5 months ago. I started taking lessons shortly after I got it. I'm 47 years old and I've never played an instrument in my life but I've always wanted to play bass. I love a good groove. The pluses are that I'm in love with the sound and the instrument and I have great timing. The minuses are a longer list. My fingers just don't want to stretch, my fingers don't always want to behave the way that I want them to and learning to mute unused strings has me frustrated beyond belief. I had a great jam session with my instructor and another student last week but the more I progress, the more I realize how much I still have to learn and work on. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm like a dog chasing my tail at this point. I'm questioning everything that I do and my biggest fear is that my fingers just won't ever stay down or spread out. It's laughable but it's also far from funny currently. I'm hoping to hear that this is normal because the negative voices in my head are really filling me with a doubt that I'm too old and I'll never improve. Help...
Hello! I finally made the leap and bought my first bass about 5 months ago. I started taking lessons shortly after I got it. I'm 47 years old and I've never played an instrument in my life but I've always wanted to play bass. I love a good groove. The pluses are that I'm in love with the sound and the instrument and I have great timing. The minuses are a longer list. My fingers just don't want to stretch, my fingers don't always want to behave the way that I want them to and learning to mute unused strings has me frustrated beyond belief. I had a great jam session with my instructor and another student last week but the more I progress, the more I realize how much I still have to learn and work on. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm like a dog chasing my tail at this point. I'm questioning everything that I do and my biggest fear is that my fingers just won't ever stay down or spread out. It's laughable but it's also far from funny currently. I'm hoping to hear that this is normal because the negative voices in my head are really filling me with a doubt that I'm too old and I'll never improve. Help...
Thank you so much for your comments! Playing with others seems to be key! I am so jealous that you've been playing since you were 12!I’m 49, and have been playing for 37 of those years and am frustrated still by the same things. Practice is the only cure. You’ll get better the more you do it, but there’s always more to learn, and always room for improvement.
Spend your practice time learning songs and learning the fretboard. Technique comes along for the ride. Then get playing with experienced people as soon as you can. Your learning will really hit the gas at that point.
LOL!!!!I started in the same place 1 year ago - never played an instrument (ignoring the accordion lessons my parents sent me to back when I was about 7 or 8), but I was always intrigued by guitars and basses. I was 54 years old, had plenty of hobbies, but something was missing. I love music, but I wanted more.
Today, I have a serious case of GAS. I started with my Fender MIM (which is still very much my #1 instrument). Shortly thereafter I picked up a used Epiphone Toby for about €80 on eBay, which I use as my travel bass when I'm on business trips (which is almost every week these days). After about 9 months, I decided I *needed* a 5-string, so I signed up to build one from a DIY kit at a workshop. Around the same time, I saw another eBay deal for a used ESP Ltd, so I jumped on that one as well. My stable now has these 4 basses.
My pedal board started with a home-built A/B/Y switch, followed by a new Boss TU-3 tuner and a used RC-2 looper (another eBay find). A friend suggested that I get myself a chorus pedal, so I signed up to build one at a workshop as well. The BYOC Analog Bass Chorus was built last weekend, but had some problems that the workshop organizer has now fixed (I had placed one resistor in the wrong place, so we had to remove it again, which kindof toasted the board at that spot), so the chorus will be added to my pedal board in the coming days. Finally, I decided I needed a compressor as well, so I've just ordered a kit for a "Pumpernickel" compressor that should also be arriving next week (something to keep me busy next weekend!).
So be warned - Gear Acquisition Syndrome is very addictive and can be expensive.
Hello! I finally made the leap and bought my first bass about 5 months ago. I started taking lessons shortly after I got it. I'm 47 years old and I've never played an instrument in my life but I've always wanted to play bass. I love a good groove. The pluses are that I'm in love with the sound and the instrument and I have great timing. The minuses are a longer list. My fingers just don't want to stretch, my fingers don't always want to behave the way that I want them to and learning to mute unused strings has me frustrated beyond belief. I had a great jam session with my instructor and another student last week but the more I progress, the more I realize how much I still have to learn and work on. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm like a dog chasing my tail at this point. I'm questioning everything that I do and my biggest fear is that my fingers just won't ever stay down or spread out. It's laughable but it's also far from funny currently. I'm hoping to hear that this is normal because the negative voices in my head are really filling me with a doubt that I'm too old and I'll never improve. Help...