Since my earlier comments I've pretty much completely revamped my DB setup, some notes on pickups and such below.
For amplification I'm running an EA doubler II, the built in HPF and notch filter negated the need for the separate preamp which is good, and it has a bit more clean power than the PF amp I was using. I also started using a berg CN212 for loud gigs, HD112 for quieter gigs. Great sounding cabs and they pair well with the EA and uprights.
On my basses I've gotten away from bridge wing pickups, the underwood was too clacky so I started using just one side which sounded better, but it was hard to balance between pizz and arco. Tried out a KNA DB-1 as a stopgap, sounded basically like the underwood with one side in. Ended up putting a full circle into my bass and that was a revelation. The full circle was great for a balanced pizz/arco sound, got nice and loud with very little feedback, and what did get noisy on my bass was easy to notch out with the EA.
That bass developed some rattles which are still in need of repair, though I believe we've narrowed down the issue. Ended up grabbing a different bass and installing a DG realist lifeline. Similar to the FC in that it sits in the bridge adjuster, but a little more deep/low sound and less of the mid range of the FC, but still a nicely balanced pickup. I've not tried the regular copper realist, though a cellist I play with uses one and he deals with a lot of low feedback issues like you described above. The luthier who installed my pickup/has been doing the work on my basses said that can be a common issue (LF feedback at volume) with that style of pickup as well.
The lifeline style has not given me trouble and at my last two gigs (one outdoors higher volume, one indoors lower volume but a very boomy room) I had zero trouble getting volume without feedback using the lifeline. Both the lifeline and the FC work without trouble direct into the input of the EA amp (1Mohm input impedance).
Don't know if any of that helps your pickup search, but there it is.