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There are programs that offer assistance and with their health concerns, I would think it'd be a slam dunk getting it.
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Cancelled a NYE gig
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Burning wood produces a nice "warm" heat. Electric heat pumps not so much, especially older models. Electric baseboard heat can be warm but is inefficient and costly. Same with propane.
Finding, cutting, splitting, and stacking wood are constant chores, not to mention keeping the furnace fed.
A buddy of mine habitually scours Craigslist for "free wood". He has mad stacks of oak and hickory, plus the junk woods used for bonfires that can be seen from space. But he works on it all the time.
Finding, cutting, splitting, and stacking wood are constant chores, not to mention keeping the furnace fed.
A buddy of mine habitually scours Craigslist for "free wood". He has mad stacks of oak and hickory, plus the junk woods used for bonfires that can be seen from space. But he works on it all the time.
This is my dads attitude towards any type of in home healthcare. That's why it falls on me.
And yeah, two weeks before his surgery he was up in the woods stocking up on firewood by himself. He thought he'd have it split and stacked by now.
Having been around elderly (I'm talking 70 years and over) people a lot in the last five or six years, it's important to realize that something (sometimes the only thing) they have to keep them going is their sense of independence.
They're also from a generation that doesn't cotton kindly to handouts or gimmees, even if they're on the receiving end of the equation. It's a cultural issue for them that many of us who grew up under a more "entitled" society (i.e post WWII) can't, or choose not, to understand. Most of them I've run into who were stubbornly clinging to their old home weren't doing it to be difficult. It was critical to their sense of self-worth to be doing for themselves, and not be seen as a burden on their family or society. It's how they're wired.
And I've also seen how quickly many of those that wound up in some sort of assisted living or nursing home care succumbed to senility or simply gave up and died.
So people, lets not get too gung-ho for "simple" solutions for the elderly like: "Just move into an elderly housing facility" or "Sell your house and come live with us." Because the psychological and emotional issues for the elderly person in a position like that are are lot more complicated than they may appear to someone not going through the same thing themselves. Sometimes your emotional and mental state can even be a matter of life or death. As any nursing home professional or geriatric specialist will tell you.
They're also from a generation that doesn't cotton kindly to handouts or gimmees, even if they're on the receiving end of the equation. It's a cultural issue for them that many of us who grew up under a more "entitled" society (i.e post WWII) can't, or choose not, to understand. Most of them I've run into who were stubbornly clinging to their old home weren't doing it to be difficult. It was critical to their sense of self-worth to be doing for themselves, and not be seen as a burden on their family or society. It's how they're wired.
And I've also seen how quickly many of those that wound up in some sort of assisted living or nursing home care succumbed to senility or simply gave up and died.
So people, lets not get too gung-ho for "simple" solutions for the elderly like: "Just move into an elderly housing facility" or "Sell your house and come live with us." Because the psychological and emotional issues for the elderly person in a position like that are are lot more complicated than they may appear to someone not going through the same thing themselves. Sometimes your emotional and mental state can even be a matter of life or death. As any nursing home professional or geriatric specialist will tell you.
I don't "need" the money per se so I've cut back to only a couple of gigs per month. I've played hundreds of shows and missed hundreds of quality hours with my kids. Seems like I blinked and my daughter is now graduating this year. You don't get that time back.
I agree, but that's like giving up your street fighting habit and buying a punching bag for your garage. The motions are the same, but when it's just you doing it, a lot goes missing.
There is no substitute for playing music with other musicians in front of an audience. One of the great things in life. But, like a lot of you guys, I've got young kids and I'm spending more of my evenings with them now and less of them on stages. C'est la vie.
Sorry, I'm trying to wean myself from my pedantic bass player tendencies, by indulging my pedantic techie tendencies...
But to me this should have been:
a) RAGE_QUIT.EXE (For backwards compatibility)
or
b) QUIT.EXE /rage (which seems more likely as rage would simply be a switch indicating what kind of quit)
Sorry to derail, but you know, trying to wean myself...
My Ex-wife and I quit playing gigs when we came home one night and the boys were scurrying out the back door, like the rats that they were. We decided that staying home during their high school years was important too.
I mean, I play maybe 2-3 gigs per month, sometimes 4. But those are all Saturday nights I could be spending at home. On the other hand, my 16 year old son is an excellent singer and has his own band and has sit in with my "experienced" bands to cut his teeth.
I agree but I've played live for so long that I've never taken the time to try to write my own stuff (like anybody would care!).
I would much rather be called immature or delusional then to trek that far for basiclly free. It's just a simple gig poorly planned at that. It's not like he's backing out of the Rolling Stones world tour ya know.
Same here. The studio has never done it for me.
And I do get studio work from time to time, seems to me like I don't have to deal with as many eccentricities, or schedule conflicts if I'm not "in the band."
I'd just assume a hobby band like this, someone else's art, hire out for my bass parts.
The older I get the more I notice a lot of the same people coming and going throughout my life. In my mind, the worst thing is to become known as unreliable, or as a guy who doesn't do what he says he will. This is why I say that the OP's decision is morally defensible but still hits the scoreboard as a let-down to the guys he said he would gig with.
Understood. I don't tolerate unreliable people as well but I also don't tolerate people who use others, plan poorly or are delusional. I even told the OP to always get full info on any gig before he accepts it.
I'm sure there are many on here who have accepted to do something without much thought, only to latter come to their senses and change their minds. As long as it doesn't become a habit there is no foul for coming to your senses no matter the reason.
This is "flaking" as much as using sick leave at work. You said you will work 52 weeks, M-F, bu something came up. If he backed out the night before then he would suck as a band member, but this is a long notice with legit reasons. There is plenty of time to get a sub. The friend accepted the gig without checking with anyone, 90% of the blame is on him.
Speaking of this, I've been meaning to put together a gig checklist. Not necessarily for booking, but useful for that as well. I don't do very much booking, so more of a few details to pass on to the person that is.
Besides the obvious,
Date, time
Requirements; PA? Amp?
If PA is needed, who will and won't be there an hour to 1 1/2 early to help set up my PA?
Who is hauling the PA?
Pay
Other compensation; food, drinks, lodging if needed
Distance
Everyone driving personal vehicles?
If not, who is riding with who?
Am I missing anything obvious?
Date, time
Requirements; PA? Amp?
If PA is needed, who will and won't be there an hour to 1 1/2 early to help set up my PA?
Who is hauling the PA?
Pay
Other compensation; food, drinks, lodging if needed
Distance
Everyone driving personal vehicles?
If not, who is riding with who?
Am I missing anything obvious?
Move pay up the list to after the date. If the pay isn't sufficient, then none of the rest of it matters.
Thank you.
I'd like to think as a whole I've been more than accomidating, & reliable for this band. This will be the the second (2nd) EVER gig or "appearance" I've not been able to make in the year or so I've been a member.
The first was family related as well, and was never booked because I knew well ahead of time.
This band couldn't do any gigs requiring a PA before I joined, and my dad gave me the PA. (Dads a gigging veteran, done being the guy with the PA. I jokingly told him thanks, but giving a PA is kinda like giving a monkey's paw, there's always a catch)
I told my band member, "I'm giving you a month instead of a week or a day. Doc said twelve weeks, but sure, its a possibility, my dad could make a miraculously speedy recovery, and not need my help. I can't count on that, it's not likely & I may not know for two weeks, or 3 1/2, or the night before. Then it's even less notice."
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Where are you gonna find a sub that will travel 430 miles each way for $166? And then you're asking him to provide and transport the PA.......
