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Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Nino Valenti, Mar 6, 2005.

  1. Nino Valenti

    Nino Valenti Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 2, 2001
    Staten Island NYC
    Builder: Valenti Basses
    In a thread in the Lobby where only Supporting members can view, Cassinova posted that he tried to take his life today. For us supporting members, please read:


    I feel that he is one of my internet friends and I personally don't know what to do. I honestly feel like crying. :(

    Well, I am. :(
  2. Nino Valenti

    Nino Valenti Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 2, 2001
    Staten Island NYC
    Builder: Valenti Basses
    197members are on line and not one reply.

    :( I'm disgusted.
  3. What!?

    Cass, DON'T DO IT.

  4. James Hart

    James Hart

    Feb 1, 2002
    Endorsing Artist: see profile
    Cass, I'm not sure what to say :(

    I'm glad to see you online today though :hyper:
  5. Nadav


    Nov 13, 2004
    Atlanta, GA
    I don't know about the other 196, but one of those simply doesn't know how to respond to that.

    Cassanoav, although I don't know you, I truly hope that you find the courage to make it through your current situation. :(
  6. I agree - I really don't know what to say. Suicide is the most selfish option you can ever take. Please Cass, think about what you're doing.

  7. Nino Valenti

    Nino Valenti Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 2, 2001
    Staten Island NYC
    Builder: Valenti Basses
    I really don't know how to reply either. I've been IMing him and any positive words would help.
  8. Mike Money

    Mike Money Banned

    Mar 18, 2003
    Bakersfield California
    Avatar Speakers Endorsing Hooligan
    Suicide never solved anything, bro... just hurt a lot of people.
  9. Blackbird

    Blackbird Moderator Supporting Member

    Mar 18, 2000
    Cass - check your e-mail/PM then contact me.
  10. Don't_Fret

    Don't_Fret Justin Schornstein

    Dec 10, 2003
    Cass, I know what it's like. I've been there. The only thing I can really offer you is just to keep truckin. It gets better. I promise.
  11. Surgeon


    Mar 4, 2003
    North Dakota
    I've been following this thread and Cass's thread in the Lounge.

    Has anyone had a response to their PMs, anyone talked to him directly on the phone or anything yet?
  12. DDXdesign

    DDXdesign formerly 'jammadave' Supporting Member

    Oct 15, 2003
    Wash DC metro area
    Cass - if you're reading this thread, you know TalkBass cares, man. Add me to the list of those who are available to talk anytime. Also add me to the list of "been there, almost did that a couple times"...

    Matter of fact, the thing that made me see it's never a good way out was wandering in and seeing with my own two eyes, somebody (a friend's girlfriend) lying in her own bed crying, all cut up and passing out, from slashing her wrists, and a half bottle of muscle relaxers.

    The guy and I had just walked in after getting out of class (this is when I was in college). I made the 911 call, as well as a call to a pharmacist (where I found out that the pills were muscle relaxers) and my friend just held her - and she made it. And eventually, things got better for her, for them.

    They have to: when you're at rock bottom the only way you can go is up.

    Nobody can say "chin up and it'll get better" and expect someone in your state to believe it, but if you have ever been truly happy in your life, just hold on to the thought of being there again... hell, even if you don't think you ever have been - it's better than sex, better than Christmas when you were 7, better than a new car.

    Man, pluck a string and sing your soul out into the night sky. The world can feel you.

    Take care.
  13. Cass, having run into you at the BCGTG a year or so ago, I remember you as being a pretty good guy. You gave me the impression that you cared about people, and were there to help if needed. Dude! stick around, the world needs more like you, not less. If you need to talk, you have quite a few friends here ar TB.

    Sending positive vibs, John
  14. Toasted


    May 26, 2003
    Leeds, UK
    Tomorrow is always another day, with another sunrise.
  15. Jason Carota

    Jason Carota

    Mar 1, 2002
    Lowell, MA
  16. RAM


    May 10, 2000
    Chicago, IL
    I replied in the lobby.

    I care. I honestly do. :)

    And, for anyone else having such painful times, please feel free to PM me a message or your phone number. I do return messages and am not the bastard my threads might otherwise indicate. I promise. :)
  17. Josh Ryan

    Josh Ryan - that dog won't hunt, Monsignor. Supporting Member

    Mar 24, 2001
    I just got here.

    Cass, you have a larger group of friends than you realize.
  18. I'm very sorry to hear about this terrible news. Some people very close to me have tried to take their own lives and I can tell you it is not an easy subject to deal with. Try to remember there are hundreds of people you can talk to. Be it here on TB, family, or phone lines. I hope you begin to feel better soon.
  19. my grandfather hanged himself last month. a lot of suicidal folks think they're relieving their friends/family of a burden, but trust me, that's not the case at all.

    besides, you can't play bass when you're dead. you'd have to be nuts to give that up.
  20. KeithPas


    May 16, 2000
    Hang in there Cass and don't do anything foolish and irreversable. I'll be praying for you. Even though we don't know each other if you need anything PM me.