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CASSINOVA NEEDS OUR HELP!!!!!!!!!!

#61
Glad that your trying to get help!

Please don't ever feel shame about asking for help, theres no shame in feeling the way you do... you just feel that way.

With the right support you can overcome this and be and feel happy.... trust me I have walked many miles in your shoes.

FWIW Have your docs run blood work to check your hormone levels especialy testosterone, estrogen, DHt. Mds usually don't check (steriod scare and the whole dark side of sports) Only 5% of men ever get diagnosed.

I have a weird pituitary gland and I don't make the hormones to make testosterone. Antidepresants only worked somewhat. I got a new MD that on a whim ran some extra tests and found out my testoterone was very low. once I started treatment the deppresion went away !!!!!

I'm not saying this is your case but it may be worth checking into :)
 
#62
Cass if I were you I wouldn't worry about "bringing down" the people here at TB with your problems. As it is you have more important issues to work out. But more importantly, for me Talkbass has always been a place where I came for advice. Admitedly it was advice about whether Spector was better than Warwick :p but the point is everyone here is willing and wants to give each other advice. Especially when it's something that's as important as this. In the words of Red Green, "We're all in this together. Keep your stick on the ice."
 
#63
cassanova said:
I took a lot of what you said into consideration last night Gard. What Jay said too.

After I logged off here last night, my phone rang again. It was Samantha again. (yeah, i know man) She was the only one that knew about all the issues leading up to the attempt and the attempt itself before I ever posted about it in the lounge or confided in you and Jay about it.

She made me promise her that I'd seek help. I made the promise to her to more or less shut her up, to get her to stop crying, and to get her off my ass.

She was telling me similar things to what you and Jay were. She is also blaming herself for me being in the frame of mind that I'm in now and even trying it in the first place.

So I told you, Jay, and her that I'd talk with someone today.

Despite being extremely depressed, I'm still a man of my word.

So I went and talked with my professor this morning. I got double teamed when I went. He made me talk with him and the dean of arts and letters. (he has a phd in psychology, my professor a masters)

They in turn called my doctor at the VA clinic and got me into to see her as a walk in. My doc prescribed anti anxiety and anti depressants and scheduled an immediate appointment for me to see the mental health department today. So I also spoke with them around 2:30pm today.

My professor and dean also want to meet with me once a week to council me.

I dunno if its all going to work out or not. But I promised at least 3 people today. (Sam, My professor, and the dean) that I'd give professional help a legitimate chance before trying to take my own life again. Since I'm a man of my word, I will try to do what I promised.

I'll clue you in to more details if I see you on here tonight.

As for everyone else that posted in this thread. I sincerely do appriciate all the kind words and offers to help.


I'd also like to apologize to all of you. I'm very embarassed for ever making this public. What I did was never about not feeling wanted, unliked, unloved, or that nobody cares for me. I always knew that was'nt true. It was about me being a weak minded looser that cant or doesnt want to cope with the turmoils of life anymore. None of you needed to be brought down by reading about all of this as I know you all have your own problems to deal with. I don't like lots of attention, never have, and I certainly don't like all the attention that its brought to me.

Like I said to Gard last night and in my thread in the lobby. If I wanted attention I'd had become a guitarist or singer.
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John, thank you. I would have been really saddened if you'd done something stupid (well, stupider than talking with Samantha again, but that's another story...:p)

Besides, I'd have been REALLY PISSED if you'd done that, then Jay and I would have had to drive all that way to kick your @$$ for being an idiot.

Now, I'm gonna ignore ya, because you say you don't like the attention.

;)
 
#64
cassanova said:
I'd also like to apologize to all of you. I'm very embarassed for ever making this public. What I did was never about not feeling wanted, unliked, unloved, or that nobody cares for me. I always knew that was'nt true. It was about me being a weak minded looser that cant or doesnt want to cope with the turmoils of life anymore. None of you needed to be brought down by reading about all of this as I know you all have your own problems to deal with. I don't like lots of attention, never have, and I certainly don't like all the attention that its brought to me.

Like I said to Gard last night and in my thread in the lobby. If I wanted attention I'd had become a guitarist or singer.
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I appologize if me starting this thread has made things worse. My intention was to have people just try to make you feel better and hopefully have others that have been in the same state of mind help you out in any way possible. :(
 
#66
Nino Valenti said:
I appologize if me starting this thread has made things worse. My intention was to have people just try to make you feel better and hopefully have others that have been in the same state of mind help you out in any way possible. :(
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Nino, you did absolutely the right thing. Don't apologize, or I'll have to drive up to NYC and kick YOUR @$$.

;)

By the way, I sent something back to you with Adam Levy (Brooklyn Gear)....

:ninja:
 
#67
Ya know Gard, thats twice in 3 days that you threatend to kick my ass and now you just threatend to kick poor Nino's too.

I think I'm gonna have to smack you around a bit at the GTG next Saturday if I can make it. ;)

In the mean time man, seek help and get those anger control issues worked out. :p
 
#69
cassanova said:
Ya know Gard, thats twice in 3 days that you threatend to kick my ass and now you just threatend to kick poor Nino's too.

I think I'm gonna have to smack you around a bit at the GTG next Saturday if I can make it. ;)

In the mean time man, seek help and get those anger control issues worked out. :p
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Haha! That's the ole Cass, kickin' ass and taking numbers. I am sorry I missed the thread for a while... I have been working too much and just an occasional lurker. But I do want to add my 2 cents.... Don't be embarassed that you need a friend now and then. Being friends is all about helping each other... and you have many friends here!!!

BTW,

cassanova said:
Like I said to Gard last night and in my thread in the lobby. If I wanted attention I'd had become a guitarist or singer.
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Too cool man... :D
 
#71
Cass~
I'd be a liar if I told you I hadnt considered it myself from time to time in the past. More often and with more seriousness then I am comfortable talking about. And I know it doesnt really help to have people you hardly know saying "don't do it!" etc. But I wanted to tell you I'm proud of you for taking that step and seeking therapy. You are a stronger man than I, and I think that you are on the right track. Life get's ****ty. Really ****ty sometimes. But I'm going to keep on living, and I hope you will to, just as a big "F*** You" to all those people who said we'd never make it.
 
#74
cassanova said:
Ya know Gard, thats twice in 3 days that you threatend to kick my ass and now you just threatend to kick poor Nino's too.

I think I'm gonna have to smack you around a bit at the GTG next Saturday if I can make it. ;)

In the mean time man, seek help and get those anger control issues worked out. :p
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Hey, if my anger management issues have kept you 'round, they're not an issue, are they?

:)

...sides, you gotta catch me to smack me around, and I don't think you can...if you do I'm in sheep dip, but I don't think it's likely!!!

:spit:
 
#75
Wow.....been a while since I posted here regularly....just cruised by and saw this!

Cass - hang in there and take each day as it comes. Ain't no shame in admitting life has got on top of you. And from what I've read you're taking positive steps to get back on top of them! Good luck bro - have been through depression and it ain't fun (and mine was really just a mild case!). My PM box is open if you wanna talk, vent, rant, bounce ideas off etc.....take care!
 
#77
Gard said:
Hey, if my anger management issues have kept you 'round, they're not an issue, are they?

Silly wabbit, it wasn't the anger management issues, it was the words of wisdom.

sides, you gotta catch me to smack me around, and I don't think you can...if you do I'm in sheep dip, but I don't think it's likely!!!

With as much as I smoke I wouldn't doubt it.
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